Well, it's true...it's also true that it would be easier to look at footage of an encounter going right and say "like that," than describe what some of those things are like."Relax..." is trite and not-helpful though...you're right. Maybe staying in the moment? Because I know sometimes I meet someone cool and either I start planning our relationship...or picturing how wrecked I'll be when they don't call, or are secretly ableist bigots, or whatever...
Zoe: Nobody's saying that, sir. Wash: Yeah, we're pretty much just giving each other significant glances and laughing incessantly.
'Our Mrs. Reynolds'
Spike's Bitches 47: Someone Dangerous Could Get In
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
erikaj - Aug 03, 2012 10:53:40 am PDT #18260 of 30001
"already on the kiss-cam with Karl Marx"-
javachik - Aug 03, 2012 10:55:39 am PDT #18261 of 30001
Our wings are not tired.
Here is my best advice: don't think about it from the POV of "attracting women." Think about it from the POV of wanting to find out what these cool nerd women are like. Someone whose attitude is "I want to get to know you, Other Interesting Person," is WAY more appealing than "I want you to find me attractive!"
This is really, really, good advice. Show interest in them. And don't just flirt with the cute ones!
EpicTangent - Aug 03, 2012 11:04:06 am PDT #18262 of 30001
Why isn't everyone pelting me with JOY, dammit? - Zenkitty
Aims inspired me to look up some BBT advice. You could say this:
Hi. I'm Leonard. You are beautiful. You pop, sparkle and buzz e-lec-tric. I'm going to pick you up at eight, show you a night you will nev-er for-get.
Maybe drop the "I'm Leonard." Other than that, works like a charm, I bet.
Zenkitty - Aug 03, 2012 11:10:57 am PDT #18263 of 30001
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
P.-C., I second the suggestion to get a haircut like that. It will look fantastic on you. Just ask the stylist to show you how to make it happen yourself.
I used to be confused and bewildered when guys seemed interested in me too. I solved the problem by, um, well, deciding that I deserved it. I know, not helpful.
meara - Aug 03, 2012 11:23:43 am PDT #18264 of 30001
The "Try but not too hard! Flirt but don't be flirty!" stuff just makes me think of the recent XKCD "what someone is thinking during conversation" thing. Which is SO TRUE.
omnis_audis - Aug 03, 2012 11:52:08 am PDT #18265 of 30001
omnis, pursue. That's an order from a shy woman who can use M-16. - Shir
Trying to NOT try too hard SUCKS. Because then you keep wondering "Am I trying too hard? How about now? HOW ABOUT NOW?" and then you spontaneously combust in a bonfire of introspection, stress, and self-doubt.This is SO me. SoooooooOOoo me. Vapor lock. Everytime. Which is why I'm still single.
P-C, good luck! Be your self. It's a nerd on nerd event, so, that should make it easier!
omnis_audis - Aug 03, 2012 1:09:50 pm PDT #18266 of 30001
omnis, pursue. That's an order from a shy woman who can use M-16. - Shir
I killed the thread. Sorry about that.
So. What did I learn today?
- Golf carts do not have power steering
- Golf carts have horrible turning radius
- When they put up traffic barriers, people fit through, golf carts often do not
- must learn way around campus via golf cart access points
But hey, much easier than walking around campus. Wheeeeeeeeeeeeeee!
Connie Neil - Aug 03, 2012 1:11:48 pm PDT #18267 of 30001
brillig
Can you paint flames on your cart?
brenda m - Aug 03, 2012 1:13:23 pm PDT #18268 of 30001
If you're going through hell/keep on going/don't slow down/keep your fear from showing/you might be gone/'fore the devil even knows you're there
I killed the thread. Sorry about that.
You were probably trying too hard.
omnis_audis - Aug 03, 2012 1:16:47 pm PDT #18269 of 30001
omnis, pursue. That's an order from a shy woman who can use M-16. - Shir
Can you paint flames on your cart?Hmm, well. It's university property. And not sure how long we get to keep them. We got 2 of them, and boss man said for me to keep the keys to the white one 24/7. Given how my driving was today, we might need to paint flames on it to cover the scrapes of squeaking by areas too narrow for the cart. eeep! But hey, I did get it over the parking curb, and got unstuck all by myself!