I am arguing about contraception with a very religious Catholic friend on facebook. I should stop, because this is getting annoying. I keep saying things like "this is how this would affect me" or "this is how this has affected these actual women I know," and he always responds things like "in the case of a woman who..." He seems completely unwilling to step out of the theoretical, and it's driving me nuts.

I think my favorite pregnancy book was one that showed in uterine images of the baby every week or so. It was coffee table sized. I loved Dr Sears' Baby Book also but that's not really a pregnancy book.

I am shocked (ok, surprised maybe) that there are people who would give you a hard time. I guess that is probably my privilege talking.

Sammy is now 6 months old, sitting up, and enjoying solid food. He is just the greatest thing ever.

It sounds like he isn't open for debate, to see the other side, and learn from it. All he wants to do is convert you to his point of view. If you are not wanting to be converted, then say "I'm afraid it looks like we will never see eye to eye on this topic" and step away from the discussion.

It sounds like he isn't open for debate, to see the other side, and learn from it. All he wants to do is convert you to his point of view. If you are not wanting to be converted, then say "I'm afraid it looks like we will never see eye to eye on this topic" and step away from the discussion.

Yeah, I just posted something like that. I think I got a little too reality-based for him, by mentioning actual body parts and processes, and he said it was "inappropriate" for facebook. (I wasn't aware that anything was inappropriate for facebook, but whatever.)

One of my FB friends -a teenager-just liked a picture of a naked woman and man in the shower. The guy has his hand inside her. I thought that was sort of inappropriate for FB.

But as long as we are discussing body parts and not showing them, I'm good with it.

clearly I don't look at the right feeds.

t /snerk

I'm being a motherfucking adult in a T-shirt that says "BITE ME!"

Go you! Also, where do I get one of those shirts?

I am shocked (ok, surprised maybe) that there are people who would give you a hard time. I guess that is probably my privilege talking.

Usually its more subtle than outright hostile, but yeah people suck. I did have one (former) friend tell me outright I should adopt and never get pregnant because I didn't know what it could do to my body.

sj! So excited for you! The PG books already mentioned are the ones I had as well (What To Expect, Happiest Baby on the Block). I also kept a blog (still do, actually) and was part of a group of lesbians who were all pregnant with our first at the same time. So fun! Anyway, EXCITED!

a group of lesbians who were all pregnant with our first at the same time

My brain's instinctive response: Was there something in the gay water?

For me, personally, I kind of decided against it. Or, really, life did, by not putting anyone with whom I would like to procreate in my path. In my position, it does not seem like the best choice. But it was never my life's dream, either. Sometimes, it would have been nice, but, I'm 38, it would be a double freakshow now. But I'd never try to decide that for anyone else, especially if it's their burning desire versus my, say, trip to Australia I haven't made yet. (I suspect that my cervix may be incompetent, also. It might never have been possible...both mom and grandma? Not so much with the easy breeding.) But maybe there will be a kid already here who will need me for something someday