You know some of my co-workers and I were talking about Scandal and Revenge and it struck me - two very popular new shows, with action, intrigue, etc., and the protagonists are women. And women are fairly high up on the list of antagonists. Add in Once Upon A Time, where the two main characterss are women, and it's looking interesting. And they're all on ABC.
It just struck me ... so often, in these nighttime shows, women will be "the girl" "the romantic interest" but not really active. It may not mean anything, but I find it interesting.
So far today is not going well. I may need a do over.
Omnis, I can understand how frustrating your siblings' lack of participation is upsetting for you and your father. Just keep in mind that it's actually their issue, not yours. Just do what you can do to connect with your dad as you've been doing. It's actually kind of not cool for your dad's gf to put this on you to solve or fix. It's their decisions to not reach out to your dad, and they may feel like they need to do so for whatever reasons that makes sense to them. It's not your problem to solve. Just keep doing your own thing with him.
I know in my past I have had to step away from family situations because they were unhealthy. I had my reasons, and I also didn't always share them with my sister because I didn't want to taint her relationship with them.
Sj, I hope your day gets better! Sorry it's sucking so far.
Not getting better. ThE poor woman sitting next to us in the restaurant just had a massive seizure.
Luckily her family knew what to do, the restaurant staff was wonderful, and the ambulance came quickly. The morning adventure of water spurting from the washing machine and hauling wet soapy clothes to the laundromat doesn't seem as dramatic anymore.
Omnis, I can understand how frustrating your siblings' lack of participation is upsetting for you and your father. Just keep in mind that it's actually their issue, not yours.
With my brother, it's no surprise. I nickname him "the hermit", as he rarely calls any of us. He and his wife keep in contact with her family, but not his. Dunno why. Just the way it works out. My sister. I dunno. I guess being less than a year apart, we were very tight growing up. And she was "the good one". Always doing her chores and homework. Being the responsible one. And now, as an adult, she is the complete opposite. So yeah, it is her problem. But, I'm also wanting to do as much as I can for dad. I guess part of that is "guilt" (for lack of a better word) in that I feel there is nothing I can do from all the way over here. And anger that there is tons for her to do being a few miles away. But. Well. I dunno. I reached out. I tried. Just want to keep his spirits up. I know how much that helps.
ION, the Pre-Qualify isn't strong enough for the selling bank. So now I gotta go through the Pre-Approval process (another $125 fee). And more time. Ugg. So frustrating. Which apparently is basically applying for the mortgage itself. So hopefully this will save hassle down the road. And hopefully this one won't fall through, so all this won't be for nothing. But. Ugg. Crazy. If it does fall through, I really have to think, do I want to even look at short sales anymore? It's about all I can afford. But. Golly, the hassle is a hassle.
{{{omnis}}} You are doing what you can and I'm sure your calls mean a lot to your father right now. You can't change your siblings, no matter how much you might want to. As far as the short sale goes, I really hope this one comes through for you.
omnis, a pre-approval ought to be good for a certain period of time, so even if this sale falls through, you can go look at another house with pre-approval in hand, which will make the whole process much easier and quicker. My sister says never start looking at houses unless you have a pre-approval. It's like cash in hand.
