Why am I craving Fruit Loops??
To commemorate a past event, you kill and eat an animal. It's a ritual sacrifice, with pie.
Anya ,'Sleeper'
Spike's Bitches 47: Someone Dangerous Could Get In
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
omnis_audis - Mar 24, 2012 10:02:37 pm PDT #10372 of 30001
omnis, pursue. That's an order from a shy woman who can use M-16. - Shir
omnis_audis - Mar 24, 2012 10:32:56 pm PDT #10373 of 30001
omnis, pursue. That's an order from a shy woman who can use M-16. - Shir
For your entertainment, the Cyber Conductor:
Safe for work. Involves music, and reading subtitles, unless you speak German.
erin_obscure - Mar 24, 2012 11:17:05 pm PDT #10374 of 30001
Occasionally I’m callous and strange
I wish to thank you all, bitches, for dramatically improving my life. That discussion about different ways of hanging one's toilet paper? It had never before occurred to me that there was a valid reason for "under" aside from irritating proper over-hanging folks. I altered my toilet paper and Malachi, destroyer of toilet paper, hasn't touched it since! I can leave my bathroom door open and allow full airflow throughout the house. It's like a minor miracle, all from hanging my toilet paper a different way.
sj - Mar 25, 2012 6:20:56 am PDT #10375 of 30001
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
My m-i-l did not react well to the news of our house. I need to figure out a way to respond without escalating things further. I do not want to be the adult here.
Stephanie - Mar 25, 2012 6:54:39 am PDT #10376 of 30001
Trust my rage
She's not happy you bought a house?
sj - Mar 25, 2012 6:58:08 am PDT #10377 of 30001
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
She's not happy we didn't consult her, and she is not happy we didn't use her husband as our real estate agent. The thing is he works very long days and they're never even available for dinner. If we had used him as our realtor we pretty much would have had to negotiate this process on our own, with him signing off on it. We weren't comfortable with that. We knew she would be upset, but we have been trying for weeks to get together with her to tell her in person, and she never responds. She makes things very difficult, but somehow it always ends up being our fault.
I might delete this later. I'm worried she could somehow find it.
le nubian - Mar 25, 2012 7:12:58 am PDT #10378 of 30001
"And to be clear, I am the hell. And the high water."
oh good gracious, sj.
you know you made the best set of decisions for your circumstance and you should not feel badly about it. I know it is uncomfortable, but you have approached this whole process reasonably and logically.
You should be commended no matter her feelings.
sj - Mar 25, 2012 7:15:27 am PDT #10379 of 30001
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
I know. The thing is, it is always all about her. There is nothing in her e-mail indicating she his happy for us and how exciting this is for us. There is also notably missing any mention of helping us move or paint or anything else that the other parentals have offered us. TCG is understandably upset, which of course makes me mad and want to respond in a vicious way, even though logically I know that will only make things worse.
Pix - Mar 25, 2012 7:22:33 am PDT #10380 of 30001
The status is NOT quo.
sj, as someone who has experienced two sets of very difficult in-laws, my best advice is to develop as thick a skin as possible and remain positive, even when you're provoked. Don't engage unless you have to; ultimately this has to be TCG's fight, if he chooses to pursue it. All you can really do is be supportive of his decisions.
I am very sorry. It's a tough place to be, but try not to take it personally. It's not about you; it's about deeper family stuff. Hugs.
sj - Mar 25, 2012 7:25:19 am PDT #10381 of 30001
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
sj, as someone who has experienced two sets of very difficult in-laws, my best advice is to develop as thick a skin as possible and remain positive, even when you're provoked. Don't engage unless you have to; ultimately this has to be TCG's fight, if he chooses to pursue it. All you can really do is be supportive of his decisions.
Thanks, Pix. I've been able to develop a thick skin when it comes to myself, but I don't know how to do that wrt how she treats TCG. I can't stand to see him get hurt, especially when he has done nothing wrong. I am going to be the one to respond to the e-mail because TCG can't see past the hurt right now, while I can be a little more objective.