I'm always a little skeeved by situations where stuff seems to be acted out to fulfill the non-participating partner's fantasies. Which may be hypocritical since I have no such problem with the voyeuristic nature of porn. But at least with that the viewer's not generally saying "hey, gangbang my wife while I take pictures!"
Faith: A kid. Angel's got a kid. Wesley: Connor. Faith: A teenage kid born last year. Wesley: I told you, he grew up in a hell dimension. Faith: Right. And what, Cordelia spent her last summer as… Wesley: A divine being. Faith: Uh-huh. Can I just ask--What the hell are you people doing?
'Why We Fight'
Natter 68: Bork Bork Bork
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Matt the Bruins fan - Apr 23, 2011 4:00:19 pm PDT #4919 of 30001
"I remember when they eventually introduced that drug kingpin who murdered people and smuggled drugs inside snakes and I was like 'Finally. A normal person.'” —RahvinDragand
DavidS - Apr 23, 2011 4:05:01 pm PDT #4920 of 30001
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
I don't know. It's sounding a bit like "Everybody's else's porn is skeevy and weird, but my freaky deeky thing that I like is untainted. And anybody that thinks my thing is weird makes me angry with their wrongness."
Pix - Apr 23, 2011 4:05:51 pm PDT #4921 of 30001
The status is NOT quo.
grilled cheese and tomato soup
Oh yes. You just made my dinner decision. Comfort food FTW!
I'm working on my NBCT renewal portfolio. It's slow going. I enjoy writing about teaching and learning and had done a lot of thinking about what I was going to write, but I probably should have thought about starting the actual writing before now. It's due a week from today. Um. Oops.
Matt the Bruins fan - Apr 23, 2011 4:06:56 pm PDT #4922 of 30001
"I remember when they eventually introduced that drug kingpin who murdered people and smuggled drugs inside snakes and I was like 'Finally. A normal person.'” —RahvinDragand
Eh. I reserve the right to think stuff is creepy. Doesn't mean I'll try to prevent people who are into it from enjoying themselves; I just won't be attending the key party.
Jesse - Apr 23, 2011 4:09:55 pm PDT #4923 of 30001
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.
For me, I think most of porn is skeevy and weird in some way, but that doesn't mean all of it is, or that a lot of it's not hot to look at.
§ ita § - Apr 23, 2011 4:11:04 pm PDT #4924 of 30001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
stuff seems to be acted out to fulfill the non-participating partner's fantasies
That's really not the dynamic I've encountered in the interracial cuckolding. The husbands seem to be fairly often in chastity belts undergoing orgasm denial, and they do participate, in order to clean up after where the black guy just went.
It's sounding a bit like "Everybody's else's porn is skeevy and weird, but my freaky deeky thing that I like is untainted. And anybody that thinks my thing is weird makes me angry with their wrongness."
Where are you getting that? Half your point is defensiveness, which I haven't seen here.
As for judgy, I am judgy about the racism I think is inherent in the interracial cuckolding kink, and I'm totally good with that. Judgy judgy judge.
Scrappy - Apr 23, 2011 4:14:01 pm PDT #4925 of 30001
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.
I was going to do an hour or two of weeding, but I washed, folded and put away all the laundry, went to the office and worked two hours clearing out recyclables and shredding DVDs, went to the paint store and got touch-up paint for the living room wall and took the dogs on a two mile walk. So now I want to lounge around and, dammit, I will.
That Mandingo stuff is skeevy, I think. Not the humiliation kink, but the fact that for these guys the ultimate humiliation is having specifically a black guy fuck your wife.
Amy - Apr 23, 2011 4:16:08 pm PDT #4926 of 30001
Because books.
I'm sure a lot of people think porn I might like is skeevy. Good for them. I'm perfectly entitled to think porn they like is gross or skeevy or just plain weird, too. But I won't tell them they can't watch it, and I assume they'll do the same for me.
DavidS - Apr 23, 2011 4:19:18 pm PDT #4927 of 30001
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
Where are you getting that?
From everybody saying how skeeved they were by interracial porn. It's such a common kink and I don't think you can impute the racism in it.
As for judgy, I am judgy about the racism I think is inherent in the interracial cuckolding kink
...though you disagree. Is a preference for latino men, or asian women equally skeevy? I just don't think the myriad of associations that go into any individuals sexuality need to pass that kind of scrutiny. I don't think every white woman into black men has Jungle Fever (sorry, Spike).
Half your point is defensiveness,
I threw that in there. But mostly because there are a lot of outlier sexual interests on this board that wouldn't pass somebody else's skeeve test. So my philosophy is not to be so judgy about what floats a boat.
Different people like different shit and you can't presume to know why.
Matt the Bruins fan - Apr 23, 2011 4:19:28 pm PDT #4928 of 30001
"I remember when they eventually introduced that drug kingpin who murdered people and smuggled drugs inside snakes and I was like 'Finally. A normal person.'” —RahvinDragand
That's really not the dynamic I've encountered in the interracial cuckolding. The husbands seem to be fairly often in chastity belts undergoing orgasm denial, and they do participate, in order to clean up after where the black guy just went.
Huh, that's a new one on me. Something that specific is common enough to be a big new trend? (Admittedly it's not as if I go looking into the details of straight sexuality much; I'm still mystified by the KISS style heels that are apparently such a turn on.)