I've heard of topping from the bottom. So the bondage part isn't necessarily the submission part, yeah?
Heh. I don't know if it's a commonly used term, but Tim often calls it "bottoming from the top," like if you're the one doling out the beatings or the tying, but doing it more because the one getting tied really wants it, not because you're all hot to tie someone up. (If that makes sense. VERY often when I'm the top, I feel like I'm actually the one in a service position, rather than actually being dominant. But I'm cool with that.)
May I show Tim?
Sure! And thanks! It was a lot of fun. I'm pretty sure I'm going to draw more. I need to work more on how the bondee looks. He's too comfortable in that shot.
Tim was impressed that you drew more than one coil of rope (around the arms, torso, etc.); he said that for years, any images of men tied up didn't really use as much rope on them as you would see on women tied up. Apparently the Men In Rope site has been a big step forward in that.
Also, re: being comfortable -- the point of a lot of shibari *is* to be comfortable while still being restrained in whatever manner you choose. That way you can be tied up for longer than 15 minutes but not lose circulation, etc. (That said, Tim thinks being uncomfortable is part of the fun. I think he's whack.)
It seems to me that mild bondage may be on the continuum of "confined = comforting" that Temple Grandin discovered with her squeeze machine.
That is *exactly* what Tim likes about it. Whether that's because he's non-neurotypical or just because he likes being squooshed, IDK. If he could have a squeeze machine, he would be the happiest man alive.