I am having a serious day of don' wanna. Unfortunately, moving to Ohio in 10 days. Must.

I was set to have a lazy afternoon when my SiL called and they are on their way here. So now I am frantically tidying. Fortunately house is only minor disaster area.

My laundry is all sorted. All sorted. Now, I just have to make it to the laundromat and the dry cleaner's. I have not, however, organised the shit that needs repair or alteration. That will hang about a bit longer.

Also, I have a lot of clothes to actually *put* in my closet. However, I need hangers first. More closet will be nice, but hangers will have to do. I just have to force myself away from The Container Store and over to Bed Bath and Beyond. But that takes me near TJ's, which means my third favourite apple pie. So I may survive.

Went to skating class and did pretty well, even though I did not get to practice this week, so that is damn a good start to the day. Then I scoured Lowe's to find a housewarming gift for friends who have bought their first house.

ita, I started using the B,B &B soft and thin coat hangers and I love them. I can fit more clothing in my closets and it never slips off. I know it will sound weird, but it helped me want to put away clothing whereas before I hated hanging stuff up.

Of course now I am living out of boxes and suitcases until late October and I miss hanging stuff up (although the flood crew was awesome about hanging my stuff up nicely in the wardrobe boxes).

I'll be moving out of my house for 2-3 weeks while all of the hardwood flooring in the hall and both bedrooms is replaced. And the drywall repair and painting too. This is not fun. I keep telling myself that at least this winter I'll be able to take long, hot, comfortable baths (I am taking the opportunity while they have my bathroom torn apart to also switch out the original tub with a new one that actually has some depth and softer angles for lying back in the bath).

What are your first and second favorite apple pies?

Buffistas, I need a ruling on what to do. A sticky situation has arisen.

As you know I've been dancing for several years now, and there's a varying crowd that attends--some are there every or most every week, some show up only occasionally, some I recognize but have no idea who they are, some I am facebook friends with, some I actually hang out with...

This whole issue started over facebook. My friend K, who I actually do consider a friend and hang out with etc, posted something about a new law here (giving sick days to people who work in restaurants/small businesses). He didn't agree with it, which is not to my taste, but my usual FB policy is to just skim past and not comment--not worth it. Well, a few of the other people from dancing did comment, and there got to be a bit of a pissing match. Another woman C, who is a regular, and who I am friendly with but don't usually hang out with outside of dancing, took offense and was posting things. She's a little socially awkward, but generally kind.

Well, it became a war, K posting thinly veiled references to people who are "victims" and yadda yadda, and C being all offended. She's been unemployed a long time, and apparently K and some other folks have tried to set her up with a job but she's been resistant and wants just the right job, or something.

And all that would've been roll my eyes and tell him to be less passive aggressive next time I saw him, and there's no point in picking on someone who's down. But apparently then he emailed her and basically said "you're weird and nobody likes you anyway"

Which dude. Even if that were true would be completely uncalled for. I mean, sure, she's a little weird, but I certainly don't DISlike her. And I don't think most other people do either (there used to be a little more dislike, but she's been around so long and gotten maybe a little less awkward...)

I saw him last night for the first time since this all went down (I'd seen her the week before, she wasn't there last night) and called him out on it. I was like 'did you really write an email saying nobody likes her? dude, so not called for, and mean" And he admitted it had been uncalled for and he realized that, but also that he didn't really feel all that bad. Apparently he apologized to some OTHER people (basically for the "everyone else doesn't like you either" part) but not to her.

I feel torn--on the one hand, I think it was completely jackass on his part. And I told him that. On the other hand, how much am I required to not be his friend because he was a jackass to someone else?

I don't think there's a requirement on your part to be anything but honest and straightforward with how you feel. And maybe the next time you see C you can let her know that whatever he was implying with his email didn't reflect your feelings about her.

Sounds like he made an ass of himself and that's on him and will have natural fall-out.

You're not required to do anything. For me, knowing my friend was a jackass to someone else would lead to a little distancing on my part. Because I'd be thinking, when will I be the victim of this jackassery? Surely it is just a matter of time.

But then, this is possibly why I don't have a lot of friends.

Yeah, I did already tell C (when I saw her last week) that I didn't dislike her and I though he was being an ass. She'd been pretty hurt by the whole thing (understandably) and was glad other people were saying "no, he's an ass".

But I worry that continuing to be his friend (for example, we're sharing a room when we go to a dancing convention in a few weeks) is somehow supporting him being an ass. Even if I've already told him I don't. Just not sure where the line is.

Meara, You've called him on it and called him a jackass. I think that's fine. If we broke up with a friend every time they did an asshole move (or vice versa), we'd all be very lonely. (ETA: Or maybe I have more assholish friends than y'all.)

Maybe the next time you see C (or email her, if you feel comfortable about it) tell her that you think what K did was an asshole move and you told him so. But I don't think you're responsible for your friend's actions, nor do you have to apologize for him.