no, seriously, if you've had a history of violent childhood sexual abuse, please make sure you have a therapist, even if you do ultimately decide that, yep, you really are Ace

This can't be said enough.

I'm thinkin' blow-up doll.

I sense a Buffista Business!

Oh! This is basically the Rent argument I have with people, isn't it?

Er, what?

Though on that note, I never saw it til the movie, and then I thought "These people are way too old for this shit"

I'm thinkin' blow-up doll.

Yeah. And it sings "Tiptoe Through the Tulips" or whatever. And the pitch of its voice rises as the person using it approaches climax.

Oh god, is Tiny Tim still alive? I don't want him turning up on my doorstep with his ukelele, thinking I'm into his groove.

I would like to point out that, if he is in fact deceased, this scenario doesn't get any better.

Fair point.

I also earwormed myself with "Tiptoe Through the Tulips," which is really what I deserved, since I brought him up and all.

Although there are a LOT of Tims out there...

Kon will cut you, if you try anything.

I guess I really don't want to throw down with the Boy of Steel, now that I think about it.

Zombie!Tiny Tim: so much untapped Halloween costume potential.

I'm thinkin' blow-up doll.

I sense a Buffista Business!

I am *crying* with laughter and now have to explain this whole thing to Real Live Unzombie UnTiny Tim NotDrake of my own.

The Rent argument goes something like, "Look, guys, get day jobs and pay your fucking rent. You know, like your composer did." Mostly, it's aimed at the teenagers (and emotionally-teenagers) who buy into the romance of the thing way too hard.

(And I totally agree that it is even more ridiculous coming from 10-years-older characters)

Oh! This is basically the Rent argument I have with people, isn't it?

I assume you mean the It's Romantic To Suffer For Your ART one, and not the Zombie Tiny Tim one? Because if it is, I was totally in the restroom for that part.

This can't be said enough.

It's REALLY frustrating, because I know the research on asexuality has pretty much refuted the idea that sexual abuse "causes" it, so I see kids who talk about the horrific levels of abuse they went through grabbing hold of the label at a statistically unlikely level and worry my head off that they'll never heal as much as they could. Some of them are bound to actually be Ace kids. Some of them, however, are setting themselves up for a world of hurt.

I mean, I know the physical and emotional abuse I went through with the two psycho exes destroyed my confidence and libido for a long, long time (or, how my sexual ass wound up married to a demi/grey-A person). And, frankly, to tmi it up, if I could effectively masturbate, who knows if I'd have jumped back into the pool and all I can think is, if that had happened to me younger, and the label was there, wow, I'd have grabbed on like a lifeboat.

Your assumption is correct.

Although Zombie Tiny Tim performing selections from the score would be worth seeing.

It IS the Rent argument! It is completely possible to create amazing art while having a day job and meeting your responsibilities. Because if you are really that passionate about creating, you will do it. Other things may slip by the wayside (like, oh, a social life and sleep, she says knowledgeably), but having a day job and exercising your creative passion can be done.