This can't be said enough.

It's REALLY frustrating, because I know the research on asexuality has pretty much refuted the idea that sexual abuse "causes" it, so I see kids who talk about the horrific levels of abuse they went through grabbing hold of the label at a statistically unlikely level and worry my head off that they'll never heal as much as they could. Some of them are bound to actually be Ace kids. Some of them, however, are setting themselves up for a world of hurt.

I mean, I know the physical and emotional abuse I went through with the two psycho exes destroyed my confidence and libido for a long, long time (or, how my sexual ass wound up married to a demi/grey-A person). And, frankly, to tmi it up, if I could effectively masturbate, who knows if I'd have jumped back into the pool and all I can think is, if that had happened to me younger, and the label was there, wow, I'd have grabbed on like a lifeboat.

Your assumption is correct.

Although Zombie Tiny Tim performing selections from the score would be worth seeing.

It IS the Rent argument! It is completely possible to create amazing art while having a day job and meeting your responsibilities. Because if you are really that passionate about creating, you will do it. Other things may slip by the wayside (like, oh, a social life and sleep, she says knowledgeably), but having a day job and exercising your creative passion can be done.

I saw La Boheme (in Prague, which oddly appropriate, esp. since Prague was the locus of the bohemian-ahahah- expats at the time) before I saw Rent here in B'more. I learned that I prefer my singing melodrama operatic, in a foreign language.

Oh! This is basically the Rent argument I have with people, isn't it?

I assume you mean the It's Romantic To Suffer For Your ART one, and not the Zombie Tiny Tim one? Because if it is, I was totally in the restroom for that part.

God DAMN, I wish it were Zombie Tiny Tim in Rent.

I'm trying to imagine a zombie singing in falsetto... and not succeeding.

Thanks all! The place is one of my top choices, but the location isn't convenient. Still, the people there are great so I'm very happy about it. I've notified my other top choices that I have an offer on the table so we'll see if anyone else makes a move. I don't figure anything will come of that, but I feel I should cover my bases. No matter what happens, it's all good since this was a top choice.

I don't have all the details yet, that will be tomorrow since the HR guy contacted me after hours. I don't anticipate any troubles, though.

Other things may slip by the wayside (like, oh, a social life and sleep, she says knowledgeably), but having a day job and exercising your creative passion can be done.

I'm not sure art *should* be created in a vacuum. Having a day job is at the very least one way to interact with the world, or at least some other people, and that's important (to me anyway).

It also seems really backwards to think that you shouldn't have to have any other responsibilities or any imposed discipline about schedules or whatever, when creating anything worthwhile actually takes a *huge* amount of discipline.

Gud, that is excellent!

Zombie Tiny Tim approves.