I want elves. Cat-cleanup elves.

Sometimes a partner can do that, though.

I think I'm definitely suited to being part of a pair. I usually have been, and obviously have been for the last twentysomething years. But I've explained, and S. has learned, that my alone time, or my time out of the house with people not him, is just as important to me as time with him.

Aaaand to go back to my earlier ranting about the whole #fuckplanb thing: Oh, I should have realized. Part of it was started by comments from Amanda Palmer.

sighs

I have such conflicted feelings about her.

Part of it was started by comments from Amanda Palmer.

Wait, really? She was saying to have a backup is bad for Your Art?

I hear you about the conflicted when it comes to her.

tommy- I think there were pushmi-pullyous in that video.

I find this discussion fascinating, because I find that my friends want to push me into an asexual definition, when really I am a non-pracitcing ita.

Also, I have found he "no back up plan for art" folks seem to intersect with the "family is actualy pretty rich folks.

I am a non-pracitcing ita.

Heh.

Wow, what? I'm not marginalizing or dismissing anything. You can be any flavor of the rainbow you please as you define it. I'm not putting you in a box or defining it or denying it. All I said was that as the gradations of taxonomy become so distinct as to define your own personal space it is no different than saying, "You like what you like."

That might be how you're reading the conversation, but I disagree. We weren't talking about "I want my own very specific set of likes and dislikes to become its own distinct label with a support group and flag and pride march!" We're discussing sexualities that aren't the majority, but they're certainly larger than a group of one.

So yeah, saying that the "gradations of taxonomy" are so narrow as to apply to only one person is, actually, marginalizing. Very much so. But thanks.

Having read many literary correspondences over the years I can guarantee that the most consistent theme of a writer's career is begging for money from family members, friends and patrons.

Wait, really? She was saying to have a backup is bad for Your Art?

I don't know what she means by "extravagantly safe back-up plans", but I will say that if you're someone who survives on tour by making blog posts and sending multiple emails asking your fans to feed and house you (and all of your tour employees), then your own Plan A rather depends on other people's back-up plans.

I hear you about the conflicted when it comes to her.

I keep trying to think the best about her, because she's married to someone I respect. I really do try.

We're discussing sexualities that aren't the majority, but they're certainly larger than a group of one.

"Timsexual" seems like a fairly narrow parameter.