Wow, what? I'm not marginalizing or dismissing anything. You can be any flavor of the rainbow you please as you define it. I'm not putting you in a box or defining it or denying it. All I said was that as the gradations of taxonomy become so distinct as to define your own personal space it is no different than saying, "You like what you like."
That might be how you're reading the conversation, but I disagree. We weren't talking about "I want my own very specific set of likes and dislikes to become its own distinct label with a support group and flag and pride march!" We're discussing sexualities that aren't the majority, but they're certainly larger than a group of one.
So yeah, saying that the "gradations of taxonomy" are so narrow as to apply to only one person is, actually, marginalizing. Very much so. But thanks.
Having read many literary correspondences over the years I can guarantee that the most consistent theme of a writer's career is begging for money from family members, friends and patrons.
Wait, really? She was saying to have a backup is bad for Your Art?
From her Twitter:
the time you spend building extravagantly safe back-up plans is the time you should be spending on plan a. pay attention. #FuckPlanB
I don't know what she means by "extravagantly safe back-up plans", but I will say that if you're someone who survives on tour by making blog posts and sending multiple emails asking your fans to feed and house you (and all of your tour employees), then your own Plan A rather depends on other people's back-up plans.
I hear you about the conflicted when it comes to her.
I keep trying to think the best about her, because she's married to someone I respect. I really do try.
We're discussing sexualities that aren't the majority, but they're certainly larger than a group of one.
"Timsexual" seems like a fairly narrow parameter.
I finding the parsing important - because i don't have my own words for how I am. haveing a definition - however loosely I fit it - is very cool. and i got that today
if you're someone who survives on tour by making blog posts and sending multiple emails asking your fans to feed and house you (and all of your tour employees), then your own Plan A rather depends on other people's back-up plans.
Exactly. And I agree about her husband, but some days it's pretty tough.
Jilli, thanks for the twitter name of the spider person.
A few of my neighbors/neighbor's SOs are self supporting musicians, mostly classical, but also jazz and rock. A handful are financially secure enough now to own homes, and mostly around my age. It is fascinating to me, because in this town of MICA and Peabody and JHU, you have got to be damned good to achieve that level of demand locally, whether through performance or teaching. And even so, their lives are so itinerant (the viola-ists have regular summer gigs out of state,) especially those whose primary income is performance.
They all ran plan b at some point to get to where they are.
And it is so lovely to walk down the block hearing the strains of cello and violas and voice and guitar practices.
