(Ironic that the person who introduced me to the Nields in the first place is now the reason I can't listen to the song "Gotta Get Over Greta" without wincing, but I guess that's life.)
Ah, yeah, I can appreciate that irony. My high-school-era best friend and I got into the Nields together and would sing along gleefully to "Gotta Get Over Greta" and "James" ("James visits the Washington Zoo / He says I like the invertebrates best / He says they remind me of my friends from high school / They're all so spineless"). Then came years of antagonism, jealousy, bad feelings verging on hostility, and eventually the end of that friendship. I still think of her when I listen to those songs now, but in a very different way.
smonster, I hope B gets to New Orleans quickly & easily!
And Drew, I meant to say yesterday, I'm sorry for your loss.
Interesting meeting with the three scary women from the uni. (The Girl and I had hours of mirth over them putting me in room T4 for the meeting.) They've presented me with some solutions to the problems, which, while not great, seem to be the best they can do under the (very frustrating) circumstances. At least they're doing some things for me now. Next I have to decide whether to go part time, as I'd been planning, or go for a modified full time programme. I'll officially be restarting in January, which is a bit of a bugger, but there you go. Could be worse.
Hope you get a solution to the poison ivy, smonster! Have a good flight.
This is an impasse, and the onus is on her to change, because the truth is, you've already moved on.
I do feel I have to respond in this woman's defense - I don't see where there's an onus on her to do anything. If the ball is in her court, she has every right to leave it there and walk away.
This whole conversation has made me very uncomfortable because there seems to be an unspoken assumption that Bonny is somehow entitled to this woman's friendship because of a relationship they've had in the past, and I really don't believe that's ever the case, in any relationship.
Hands Seska a cuppa
I'm sorry you had to go to that stressful meeting. I hope their fixes help.
Jessica, I actually totally agree with you. No one is entitled to anyone's friendship simply because they have been connected.
Clearly, it would be impossible to articulate everything about my friendship with K but there is one of two things I DO feel entitled to. Either follow-through on agreements about the way we are to communicate OR a clear message that the agreement no longer stands. That is honest and fair.
As a point of reference, before K moved to AZ, I suggested that we scale back our connection because I'm acutely aware of how things can shift for people. She reacted completely opposite of what I expected. "NO, NO. You are my most important friend and I won't lose you or ever stop being your friend."
I confess to hearing what I wanted to hear.
The crappy communication thing was annoying, but not fatal. Telling me that she would be there for me when I was sick and then blowing me off. That was fatal.
You are right. I'm not entitled to anyone staying connected to me, but I am entitled to honesty and, heaven's forswear, a little respect.
bonny, I am logging in from France just to tell you that you were not stupid. Love and friendship require risks and sometimes they just don't pay off. You're awesome and I hope to meet you offline soon.
Thanks Java! Me too, you.
And France! How lovely. A good friend is flying to London for Thanksgiving and will 'chunnel' her way to Paris the day after. I am positively thrilled for her.
Her -for all intends and purposes- stepdaughter is interning at the Old Globe. How cool is that?
Which leads me to a question for anyone who has ever been to that theatre. I recently watched an episode of "Time Team", a Brit show about architecture. They showed the inside of the Globe during a rain storm. Were my eyes deceiving me, or is there no roof?
Huh. A venue in Britain with no roof. Do plays go on in the rain?
There is no roof. They needed the natural light for the performances.
They needed the natural light for the performances.
Of course. That makes sense.
I guess, if performances do go on in the rain, that just adds to the adventure.
