Just like they need a "fuck off" response to friend requests (yeah, I have a long-time grudge I'm not willing to let go of) they should allow you to dislike stuff.

or even an "I didn't like you then, and I have no desire to know you now" button. Like a guy from college who wanted to friend me and I thought "I found you annoying, talentless, and often strange. Why would I want you back in my life, even on Facebook."

Just don't try that this week, because it would all be translated to "I DON'T WANT TO BE SICK ANYMORE! PLEASE MAKE ME MORE TEA? BRING ME CUPCAKES? YES, I WANT TO WATCH BEETLEJUICE *AGAIN*, SHUT UP."

Oh, I see you've met me.

or even an "I didn't like you then, and I have no desire to know you now" button. Like a guy from college who wanted to friend me and I thought "I found you annoying, talentless, and often strange. Why would I want you back in my life, even on Facebook."

THIS!

Just like they need a "fuck off" response to friend requests (yeah, I have a long-time grudge I'm not willing to let go of) they should allow you to dislike stuff.

I want FB to really mean the "Ignore" option on the "these friends of yours are friends with this person, you should add them!" button. Because NO, there are REASONS I am not friends with that person any more. Thanks. Stop suggesting them.

Oh, I see you've met me.

Our ids are connected, this is true.

When someone sends a friend request and I ignore it, what does it look like to them? Some of these people, their name is familiar but I can't really remember ever hanging out with them... and yet if it's clear someone is a buffista I friend them right away. You guys are more real to me than the people I spent my four most formative years with.

I'm not very good at dealing with stressed-out students, it seems. How am I supposed to respond if a student says to me, "I studied really hard and I went to every review session and I always come to class, and I don't know what else I could have done and I still got a horrible grade on this test." I know that everything she's said is true, and she has been working really hard and did get a really bad grade, and I know that she's telling me this because she's realized that she's got to drop the course because there's no way she can pass it, but I don't know what I'm supposed to say. It's not like there's anything I can do about it now. I tried "I know you worked really hard, and I know you're always in class." And she just kept looking at me like she expected me to say something else. I tried, "We could go through your exam and see what you had trouble with," but she said no, she has to drop the class. And finally I said, "I'm not sure how to answer you -- what kind of answer are you looking for?" and she said, "If I drop this course, I'm going to lose my financial aid," and I wasn't sure what to say, and then she left. This seems like it didn't go so well.

ugh, Hil. That would stump me too.

When someone sends a friend request and I ignore it, what does it look like to them?

Facebook changed the friend requests at some point, so "Ignore" has been replaced by "Not Now." What that does is hide that friend request so it doesn't keep showing up. The person will see "Awaiting friend confirmation" until you go into your hidden friend requests and specifically hit Ignore, at which point they will see the "Add a friend" button again and be able to send you a new friend request.

Ahh, OK. That's not so bad.

Hil, could she get tutoring?