Just like they need a "fuck off" response to friend requests (yeah, I have a long-time grudge I'm not willing to let go of) they should allow you to dislike stuff.

I want FB to really mean the "Ignore" option on the "these friends of yours are friends with this person, you should add them!" button. Because NO, there are REASONS I am not friends with that person any more. Thanks. Stop suggesting them.

Oh, I see you've met me.

Our ids are connected, this is true.

When someone sends a friend request and I ignore it, what does it look like to them? Some of these people, their name is familiar but I can't really remember ever hanging out with them... and yet if it's clear someone is a buffista I friend them right away. You guys are more real to me than the people I spent my four most formative years with.

I'm not very good at dealing with stressed-out students, it seems. How am I supposed to respond if a student says to me, "I studied really hard and I went to every review session and I always come to class, and I don't know what else I could have done and I still got a horrible grade on this test." I know that everything she's said is true, and she has been working really hard and did get a really bad grade, and I know that she's telling me this because she's realized that she's got to drop the course because there's no way she can pass it, but I don't know what I'm supposed to say. It's not like there's anything I can do about it now. I tried "I know you worked really hard, and I know you're always in class." And she just kept looking at me like she expected me to say something else. I tried, "We could go through your exam and see what you had trouble with," but she said no, she has to drop the class. And finally I said, "I'm not sure how to answer you -- what kind of answer are you looking for?" and she said, "If I drop this course, I'm going to lose my financial aid," and I wasn't sure what to say, and then she left. This seems like it didn't go so well.

ugh, Hil. That would stump me too.

When someone sends a friend request and I ignore it, what does it look like to them?

Facebook changed the friend requests at some point, so "Ignore" has been replaced by "Not Now." What that does is hide that friend request so it doesn't keep showing up. The person will see "Awaiting friend confirmation" until you go into your hidden friend requests and specifically hit Ignore, at which point they will see the "Add a friend" button again and be able to send you a new friend request.

Ahh, OK. That's not so bad.

Hil, could she get tutoring?

I barely use FB anyway, so everyone gets ignored. But there is one person I'd really like to flip a finger at, and I can't believe she ever dared send me a friend request.

Ugh. Somehow, went from having a cold and feeling a little sick to being really nauseous and feeling like hell in the space of a few hours. Do not want.

I ignore much of what comes to me on Facebook and spend too little time there to keep up. Every now and then, though, I get something great from it. High school connections? Not so much.

Speaking of friends...not only am I leaving the bff behind, based on recent incidents, but another good friend seems to have gone straight off the rails and I was not nearly as polite as I should have been in response.

She went on a rant about how Barack Obama (complete with slapping her hand on the table with each syllable) is taking her hard earned money against her will.

It turns out that, completely unknown to me or any of our friends, she is a Teabagger and Anne Coulter fan.

Honest to goodness, that would not be a problem for me. My friends are nothing, if not diverse. But it is as if this friend doesn't even see me anymore.

The crux of it? Anti-business sentiment coming out of Washington. I've never been anything but totally proud of and supportive of her business.

I tried to talk to her about not letting her political views destroy her everyday happiness and using her anger to make the change she wants. She could totally run for office...I'd even help. But no. Now I'm one of 'them.'

Sigh. The Universe certainly seems to be cleaning my house.