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Mal: Well said. Wasn't that well said, Zoe? Zoe: Had a kind poetry to it, sir.
'Out Of Gas'
Spike's Bitches 46: Don't I get a cookie?
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
WindSparrow - Oct 25, 2010 8:29:39 pm PDT #6640 of 30000
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
Maria - Oct 25, 2010 8:32:52 pm PDT #6641 of 30000
Not so nice is that I'm about to ruin a Friday morning for a bunch of people because of a series of unfortunate events and an upset foreign government. - shrift
Ugh, P-C. I wish I had more to offer you than sympathy and gutteral noises. I am so proud of how you're handling the whole matter.
Typo Boy - Oct 25, 2010 8:35:26 pm PDT #6642 of 30000
Calli: My people have a saying. A man who trusts can never be betrayed, only mistaken.Avon: Life expectancy among your people must be extremely short.
{{P.C.}} Stay strong.
Cass - Oct 25, 2010 8:41:58 pm PDT #6643 of 30000
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
I have to say, it does sound like you want to keep your parents out of it but also converse with this girl and that's ... problematic.
It's one thing to tell them you want no part of it and stand by that. But you are, from one perspective, not entirely uninterested.
And sending your parents mixed signals won't have them backing down. Why would they? You say you don't want them interfering but you have been emailing a girl they found. It's a step in the direction they want.
Laga - Oct 25, 2010 8:46:35 pm PDT #6644 of 30000
You should know I'm a big deal in the Resistance.
Yes but, is there any way to keep your parents at bay and still maybe meet the girl you're going to marry? Does it have to be all or nothing?
Polter-Cow - Oct 25, 2010 9:00:36 pm PDT #6645 of 30000
What else besides ramen can you scoop? YOU CAN SCOOP THIS WORLD FROM DARKNESS!
But you are, from one perspective, not entirely uninterested.
In the girl. I am entirely uninterested in the Process, and I have said so numerous times. There's a difference between two people e-mailing each other and their families getting all up in their grill every step of the way.
In any case, I never heard back from her after the initial response.
Yes but, is there any way to keep your parents at bay and still maybe meet the girl you're going to marry? Does it have to be all or nothing?
Apparently so. Guess I learned my lesson.
Cass - Oct 25, 2010 9:03:52 pm PDT #6646 of 30000
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
Does it have to be all or nothing?
From my admittedly vague understanding of the cultural expectations, yes.
I've tried to be supportive of P-C respectfully declining to participate in an arranged marriage. But respectfully. And secretly emailing a girl (from his perspective) / prospective wife (from his parents) behind everyone's backs isn't respectful in this situation, to me.
Cass - Oct 25, 2010 9:06:51 pm PDT #6647 of 30000
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
My response above was to Laga's post, not yours, P-C.
I am entirely uninterested in the Process, and I have said so numerous times.
But can you see how starting up communication with a woman that your parents see as a prospective wife is blurring that line?
I just think that if you want them to respect you as an adult who wants to chose their own mate, you need to steer very clear of the potential wives they find for you. Otherwise they have no reason to stop pestering and poking and trying.
Laga - Oct 25, 2010 9:08:05 pm PDT #6648 of 30000
You should know I'm a big deal in the Resistance.
In any case, I never heard back from her after the initial response.
So it doesn't matter anyway, eh?
I wish there was some way for everyone to be happy. But maybe the only person you can make happy is yourself, P-C.
Laga - Oct 25, 2010 9:20:51 pm PDT #6649 of 30000
You should know I'm a big deal in the Resistance.
But yeah, easier said than done.