Thanks, Jars!
Seska - listen to Erin. Erin is wise.
Handsome brooding vampire guy has to swoop in all sensitive mouth and overhanging forehead. How 'bout leaving some scraps for the homely-looking fellows who don't turn evil when they get some?
Doyle ,'Life of the Party'
Spike's Bitches 46: Don't I get a cookie?
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Shir - Oct 12, 2010 4:46:02 am PDT #5604 of 30000
"And that's why God Almighty gave us fire insurance and the public defender".
Seska (the Watcher-in-Training) - Oct 12, 2010 5:10:19 am PDT #5605 of 30000
"We're all stories, in the end. Just make it a good one, eh?"
I am already home with a migraine. Come on, body, play nice now. We have Things To Do.
Erin, that is all very good advice.
You are a nice person. Don't forget to be nice to yourself.
That is all too easy to forget. Thank you.
Shir - Oct 12, 2010 5:13:31 am PDT #5606 of 30000
"And that's why God Almighty gave us fire insurance and the public defender".
Sweetie, you know I love you, but if anyone will make your life hard for you, I'll have to come and beat the living shit out of them.
Even if it's you.
But in that case, I'll try and use words first.
Seska (the Watcher-in-Training) - Oct 12, 2010 5:26:12 am PDT #5607 of 30000
"We're all stories, in the end. Just make it a good one, eh?"
You're so thoughtful.
Volans - Oct 12, 2010 5:46:24 am PDT #5608 of 30000
move out and draw fire
Congrats, Shir!
So, in addition to making you feel crappy on your birthday, does OKCupid send out "still single?" emails on National Coming Out day?
Shir - Oct 12, 2010 5:49:36 am PDT #5609 of 30000
"And that's why God Almighty gave us fire insurance and the public defender".
I feel as if the next stage for OKCupid passive-aggressive emails will be sending "still single?" emails on the birthdays of you father, mother, exes, and people you dated with in the past.
Just being thorough.
tommyrot - Oct 12, 2010 5:52:51 am PDT #5610 of 30000
Sir, it's not an offence to let your cat eat your bacon. Okay? And we don't arrest cats, I'm very sorry.
I think they'll branch out into target advertising.
"Still single? Here's a coupon for 40% off of Smirnoff Vodka!"
Shir - Oct 12, 2010 5:55:26 am PDT #5611 of 30000
"And that's why God Almighty gave us fire insurance and the public defender".
"Still single? Here's our 50% off coupon for first session with one of our recommended shrinks!"
(Because if you can't find anyone, of course a. there's a problem and b. that is you).
erikaj - Oct 12, 2010 6:13:25 am PDT #5612 of 30000
Always Anti-fascist!
I felt like sending a message back..."Yes, because your people are weird in all the wrong ways. Kisses." Seska, I have nothing but BTDT...hope you handle it better than I do.(And of course, the annoying one is always the hardest worker/wants more hours...it's a rule.)
Vortex - Oct 12, 2010 6:21:29 am PDT #5613 of 30000
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman
But I feel terrible about firing her. She's so earnest and trying so hard, and she's in a complicated personal situation at the moment which I would be making worse by ending her contract. Any advice welcome! (I'm delighted with how well the other one is working out, so the situation could definitely be a lot worse.)
Well, I have two suggestions. After she has done something well, sit her down and explain what your issues are and how you would like them to be resolved. That way, it feels less like criticism and more like a discussion.
Or (or perhaps also), tell her that she is not working out, but you appreciate her hard work. Suggest that perhaps you are not explaining things well*, and then ask her to take a few hours to come to the house while your other PA is there to watch how the two of you work together to give her a clear example of how things need to be.
* I know damned well that you are explaining fine, but sometimes you gotta give a little to get a little.