Very much what Steph is saying. Premature sexualisation of girls especially is bad for everyone, not just the girls.

Yup, not to pile on, but I agree here.

Also, it's difficult for kids to make decisions about stuff that's sexualized for themselves, because they don't always have a clear understanding of what that means.

Like me grinding on the dance floor. Because I had no clue how that motion translated to sexuality, I didn't really realize that I was projecting a sexual image, only that it was a dance move I'd seen done by older dancers I admired.

People who sexualize children will do it regardless though. I wish I had a link to the article but I read once, several years ago, about pedophiles frequently being busted and detectives finding videotapes of old Flipper episodes. They had complete sets, were selling and trading them, etc. Sandy and Bud running around barefoot and in cutoffs were very sexy to these men.

It's not what the kids wear that sexualizes them, its the pervert who thinks kids are sexy.

Also, it's difficult for kids to make decisions about stuff that's sexualized for themselves, because they don't always have a clear understanding of what that means.

Like me grinding on the dance floor. Because I had no clue how that motion translated to sexuality, I didn't really realize that I was projecting a sexual image, only that it was a dance move I'd seen done by older dancers I admired.

But its NOT sexual if a little kid is doing it, its a dance step. As a kid gets older and their body developes its a dance step that warrants a discussion and some consideration.

I think about my friends the Is. Huge Cuban family, wonderful parties, those four year olds dance rings around me. Those kids do shit with their hips I only dream of doing -- but since they're four year olds its clear they're just doing dance steps. As they become teens the tone starts to shift and when they're adults its sexy as hell -- but they're still dancing at a family party. It's sexy but clearly it isn't a pick-up scene. Context matters. My friend M isn't trying to nail her uncle -- hell, she's Lesbian -- that's just how you do the dance.

I don't think putting a sexy outfit on a non-sexual being sexualizes them. I think it's how you behave when dressed that way that determines whether or not you're sexy. But I'm the first to admit I don't see the world the way most others do.

I can't decide if I think society is heading in a dangerous direction. I know I want to read more before I'll be able to form a solid opinion. But I do believe society's path is largely uncontrollable by the individual. I was trying to think of a metaphor and I was working on how you can influence the shape of a river but you can't really change where it's headed. Then I remembered I'm from Chicago and I laughed and laughed.

I don't think putting a sexy outfit on a non-sexual being sexualizes them.

Sexy remains in the eye of the beholder, but there are some beholders whose eyes we don't want to encourage.

It may not sexualize them, but it does attract the sexual gaze. And you can say pedophiles will gaze nonetheless, but dressing in a sexual way can be read as an invitation.

But its not an invitation. They're sick and they're making shit up.

I'm uncomfortable with the idea that how you dress can get you into trouble therefore you should watch how you dress. But I can't say I disagree with Dave Chappelle.

I don't think putting a sexy outfit on a non-sexual being sexualizes them. I think it's how you behave when dressed that way that determines whether or not you're sexy.

I tend to agreee with this, however I also think that there is sometimes not enough parental involvement in decisions such as what kids are wearing. I'm sorry - there is NO OTHER REASON your 13 year old is putting on a micro-mini skirt, thigh high stockings, and platform "hooker" shoes than to be "sexy". Nevermind the just "off the corner" make up. Age doesn't mean much about whether or not a kid is sexualized. Girls in particular are developing breasts and hips earlier (it seems) and therefore a 10 year old in a sexy Halloween costume is going to look sexy, regardless if she;s in the 4th grade or not.

I tend to not Our basic rule for Halloween costumes was that if it didn't adhere to the school dress code, then you couldn't wear it. Or, if your grandparent's wouldn't approve of it, then it's a big jolly no.

Then again, I'm a parent that is of the opinion that says, "These are the clothes I bought you, you will wear them. And if you buy clothes, and I don't like them, you still don't get to wear them." so I might be a little extreme on this.