FWIW, I am wearing a butch cami right now, AIFG.

Drew and Kristin, I'm so glad to hear the good news for the both of you.

{{bonny}}, you're in my thoughts. I'm so sorry you have to go through all of this.

ION, I want to kill whoever decided yesterday that the bus of 23:40 doesn't have to exist. I waited in that bus stop for 30 minutes last night, instead of seven. So it took me two hours to get back home from swing dance class, with the Clinton traffic (whenever there's a major minister/PM/President in Jerusalem... we're fucked, traffic-wise). Oh, the gronk.

And oh, Barb, the site looks wonderful! Congrats!

FWIW, I am wearing a butch cami right now, AIFG.

Tease!

FWIW, I am wearing a butch cami right now, AIFG.

my sistah! (mine's grey)

Quandry. Hive-mind help from volunteers and activists much appreciated. I volunteer for a small but fast-growing organization that shall remain nameless. I support its aims and activities entirely, but the way it's being run is starting to do my head in, and to affect me on an inclusion level. The latest plan for communication between volunteers is one that I can't participate in for disability reasons. I've mentioned the words 'reasonable adjustments' (a legal term under the UK's Disability Discrimination Act, meaning accommodations) in an e-mail. I'm not sure the inclusion point is even beginning to come across, though, because of the way the organization is run and structured. Part of me wants to quit - it's a voluntary post. Part of me wants to try to hang in there and see if practices can be reformed. But I don't know if it's too late - if the org has been established in this decisions-made-by-one-or-two-people style, and will continue this way. (Am I making any sense at all?)

erika, I get your point about the r-word. And it's hard for me not to use what I see as slightly more neutral terms like 'idiot', so I see the problem when a word's familiar. But I have friends with learning disabilities who hate the r-word, and I value their opinion, so I try not to use it. I'm not so good at asking others not to use it. Partly I don't think that's my responsibility, and I'm partly I'm a fraidy-cat on a personal level. Despite being able to protest many things in large groups (preferably with chains at the ready to attach ourselves to buses).

Pix, fantastic news for you and Drew. Must be such a relief to be getting out of the hospital. I hope you have some help with looking after him at home!

Seska, if I understood your post right, you're more than right to be angry and frustrated with the org's behavior. Since I'm a very polite and quiet person, if I were you, I'd send a very firm, even aggressive email, telling them that I have, sadly, to quit if the organization won't allow a change to allow more people to volunteer at - and mention that you'd like to see if there's any way you can help with that change, but that you don't feel as if it's a priority for them.

Anyway, in your shoes, I'd write that email, send it to Big People there, and wait and see what will happen. The important thing is not to fight windmills - you have only so much energy to fight for a better world, and you should do it on your own terms. I think.

Seska, I have no advice for you but good luck figuring out what to do.

I just woke up and I am already annoyed. A family friend is getting married, and I offered to do the bathroom baskets for her. Little baskets with things like safety pins, hand lotion, etc that the wedding guests might need etc. And now I am being micromanaged by her. I've done a million of these, and I know what I am doing, plus it's a gift. It is possible that I am more easily annoyed than I should be because of being sick.

Seska, do you have a personal connection with anyone in charge, that you could approach privately with your concerns? Sometimes making that one-on-one approach can earn you an ally. Sadly, ignoring important concerns not directly connected with "the mission" seems to happen all too often in activism.

smonster is wise.