Yeah, that sounds pretty disproportionate to me. I mean, a loud "FUCK!" when you do something stupid and/or annoying like break a bulb or spill the dinner you just made all over the floor or whatever? Sure. Maybe slamming the car door extra hard as you get in to go buy a new bulb/supper, because you're frustrated? Sure. Repeatedly doing so while yelling loudly? Kinda creepy.

Speaking as someone who has this kind of rage fit (but usually when I'm by myself because I know it is not a good thing - sorry, Daniel, for the times you have seen it) I can say that, at least for me, it is often a straw/camel's back trigger. I'm going along, maybe I think I'm doing ok, or I know that I'm on edge and putting a lot of effort into holding myself together then one last thing happens - often very, very minor - and the dam breaks. Considering the way I was raised, and whose violent temper I inherited, I count it a miracle as well as a triumph of self-control that the only things I have hit or kicked in a rage have been inanimate objects. The stress of worrying that I might one day cross that line does not make it any easier to shed the rage in safe and acceptable ways. But do please understand I do not condone this behavior, and I am not trying to excuse Laga's sister's boyfriend. It is perfectly appropriate to let someone know how their actions affect you. It is also quite reasonable to decide to make other living arrangements in order to feel safe and at peace - whether that means asking the person to leave, or going yourself.

Erin,

Apparently this feature has been around awhile.

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Um, Erin, see my response.

Fr ex, I have not synced contacts, so when I go there only a few of my fb friends have a little phone icon so I can call them.

Every few months, it goes around.

Yeah, I followed the links and fixed it.

I panicked -- sorry. But I was completely surprised by this piece of info.

I considered deleting from Beep Me, but there may be someone else out there who didn't know, and could benefit from the 'fo.

I'll delete it if peeps think I should.

How much would you expect to pay for an artisan book?

Her work is BEAUTIFUL.

Now, to answer the question: I would pay at least $75, and probably more, for a gorgeous artisan book. If I was gainfully employed, that is. And if I had the money right now, I'd ask you to ask her if she would be willing to take on a commission. Her re-binding of her ARC of Stardust is lovely, and I would love to eventually get an artisan version of the GCS book. Because I'm silly and vain like that.

The work is beautiful. She might check and see if there would be any copyright issues.

Hi again. Skipping isn't so much fun, but the whole hours in the day thing keeps getting in the way.

Made a whirlwind trip back to Florida. Did business stuff, spent a whole lotta time with DH, had dinner with son. All went really well. Back in really chilly mountains.

She might check and see if there would be any copyright issues.

With selling Gutenberg works? I don't think so.

As for fits of anger, as long as no one's getting hurt, and nothing's getting destroyed that the angry person isn't willing to replace, I'm mostly okay with it. I've had enough screaming and throwing fits of anger (and felt *so* much better after them) that I don't look askance as long as everyone is safe.

I've seen SO MANY episodes of violent rage working in DV and homeless teen shelters and with high school students that pretty much nothing phases me.

And my friends are a pretty drama-free bunch, as are my family members.

But then again, I don't have any triggers about violence -- YMMV. My reaction is usually "keep everyone else safe," try to de-escalate the sitch, in professional situations.

If someone acted like that in my HOME (I'm thinking of "I have a party and a guest of a friend freaked) it's be de-escalation, then it things got worse, gethefuckout, even if I have to physically do it myself and call the cops.

I have my crankypants on this morning.