I WANT MORE FROM THEM.
What Tep said. A useful phrase for me has been "Don't go to the hardware store for milk." Fortunately, I've found other people to give me some of the parental validation I'd been wanting - my dance teacher, my aunt, my friends, Buffistas! You know, at this point, what you will and will not get from your parents. What you can't get from them, you can find elsewhere just by being your awesome self. Let go, again and again, of your expectations and hopes. "My parents should love and accept me" is only going to bring you frustration and more heartache in this case.
Or, in some cases (i.e., mine), "my parents should behave like rational human beings".
A George Washington quote I read just today:
We must bear up against them, and make the best of mankind as they are, since cannot have them as we wish.
I WANT MORE FROM THEM.
And they want different from you. They want you to get married to a very specific kind of girl, preferably one they choose. You want them to accept you without it being an issue.
So, yes, you want more and they want different, but I think it's time for you both to realize you aren't getting and try to work with what IS and not what you WANT. You might find a lot more comfort and family peace.
I have now sent a somewhat testy yet professional email to the HaRpy at MFC, since she has not responded to either of my voicemails.
Now, budgety stuff. Blecch. Luckily, I am watching White Collar at Nora and Tom's (thank you, Nora and Tom!) to make it less onerous.
Meanwhile, I want my new phone to update and activate. I am trying to learn some expectation management myself. And patience.
Luckily, I am watching White Collar at Nora and Tom's (thank you, Nora and Tom!) to make it less onerous.
Awesome, don't delete, I haven't watched it yet. We have the new Leverage too, (which we also haven't watched yet) if you want to cue that up too.
Ooh, this time tomorrow I hope to be filled up with Leverage spoilers. I am excited.
Ooh, this time tomorrow I hope to be filled up with Leverage spoilers. I am excited.
Did you get the day off?
ETA: I just saw in Natter that you did. Yay!
I need some hivemind advice about what to do about the very bad day I had at PT today. It was my time for my every three week evaluation. On my last three week evaluation the lead PT I see dropped me down from 3 times a week to 2 times a week, which I wasn't happy about but I tried to accept that I had to do more at home exercising. This was after 3 months of going 3 times a week. Now, only 3 weeks later, she is not going to let me book any more appointments. I have 2 weeks of appointments left, and I got the strong impression that that is pretty much going to be it, which really feels like it came out of nowhere.
She feels I should be doing everything on my own now, and my trying to explain that I just can't do everything on my own seemed to get me nowhere. While better, I am also nowhere near the goal my doctor had for me in going to PT in the first place, which was to at least getting me to the point where I can work part time and manage my household stuff better.
I meet with my other PT on Tuesday (who I like and trust much more), and I want to talk to him about it. But I'm really not sure what to say. I want to be able to handle this in a professional matter that will hopefully get some results rather than with the anger and sadness I'm feeling right now.
I ended up crying with the very nice valet girl for a half an hour before I could even drive home. In my defense, I do see her 3 times a week and we know each other by name and talk whenever we see each other.