I WANT MORE FROM THEM.

And they want different from you. They want you to get married to a very specific kind of girl, preferably one they choose. You want them to accept you without it being an issue.

So, yes, you want more and they want different, but I think it's time for you both to realize you aren't getting and try to work with what IS and not what you WANT. You might find a lot more comfort and family peace.

I have now sent a somewhat testy yet professional email to the HaRpy at MFC, since she has not responded to either of my voicemails.

Now, budgety stuff. Blecch. Luckily, I am watching White Collar at Nora and Tom's (thank you, Nora and Tom!) to make it less onerous.

Meanwhile, I want my new phone to update and activate. I am trying to learn some expectation management myself. And patience.

Luckily, I am watching White Collar at Nora and Tom's (thank you, Nora and Tom!) to make it less onerous.

Awesome, don't delete, I haven't watched it yet. We have the new Leverage too, (which we also haven't watched yet) if you want to cue that up too.

Ooh, this time tomorrow I hope to be filled up with Leverage spoilers. I am excited.

Ooh, this time tomorrow I hope to be filled up with Leverage spoilers. I am excited.

Did you get the day off?

ETA: I just saw in Natter that you did. Yay!

I need some hivemind advice about what to do about the very bad day I had at PT today. It was my time for my every three week evaluation. On my last three week evaluation the lead PT I see dropped me down from 3 times a week to 2 times a week, which I wasn't happy about but I tried to accept that I had to do more at home exercising. This was after 3 months of going 3 times a week. Now, only 3 weeks later, she is not going to let me book any more appointments. I have 2 weeks of appointments left, and I got the strong impression that that is pretty much going to be it, which really feels like it came out of nowhere.

She feels I should be doing everything on my own now, and my trying to explain that I just can't do everything on my own seemed to get me nowhere. While better, I am also nowhere near the goal my doctor had for me in going to PT in the first place, which was to at least getting me to the point where I can work part time and manage my household stuff better.

I meet with my other PT on Tuesday (who I like and trust much more), and I want to talk to him about it. But I'm really not sure what to say. I want to be able to handle this in a professional matter that will hopefully get some results rather than with the anger and sadness I'm feeling right now.

I ended up crying with the very nice valet girl for a half an hour before I could even drive home. In my defense, I do see her 3 times a week and we know each other by name and talk whenever we see each other.

I'm sorry if the above post is incoherent. I can't even get my thoughts together right now.

Or, in some cases (i.e., mine), "my parents should behave like rational human beings".

In fairness, parents should behave like rational human beings. But some don't, and you can't make them.

I've found other people to give me some of the parental validation I'd been wanting - my dance teacher, my aunt, my friends, Buffistas!

smonster beat me to it, P-C. You CAN have more,just not from them.

And, you have to be the one to take the first step away. Though, on so many levels, you have already done this.

It seems unfair that the aggressors don't do the right thing, but they aren't likely to, unless and until you can let them go completely. The bonus then is that all good things end up being gravy, rather than a consolation, or salve over an old wound.

My parents, may they all rest in some tepid form of peace, taught me to say, "I want to feel loved" without adding "by them."

That one tiny adjustment made a world of difference in my life, I tell you true.

We must bear up against them, and make the best of mankind as they are, since cannot have them as we wish.

Ginger, what a perfect find.