Is she threatening to buy me a cross?

She is, I think.

I've lost my wallet twice in the last year. Both times i turned the house upside down, certain the cats were to blame. Both times i eventually checked at the store where i had last been grocery shopping...and both times it was waiting for me at customer service, fully intact. I am very fortunate.

Eeek, Calli, is this b/c of the potential gov't shutdown, or something else?

and both times it was waiting for me at customer service

The very nice checker held my groceries while I quickly traced the store where I'd wandered almost the entire thing and then drove home with fingers crossed. He kept them at his checkstand until I came back.

When I thanked him, he said, "Well, I knew you were coming back." So I am really kinda glad I did. I was tempted but it's nice to know that you weren't the person who caused someone else to lose faith in humanity that day.

And it's really nice to get home and find your little wallet sleeve thing with your license, bank card and insurance information. Because replacing those would stink.

I also reassembled my purse because I don't tend to lose that the same way. I am used to carrying a purse. A purse holds my mini-wallet sleeve thing, cash, keys, phone and (important!) lipstick. With me only having to pay attention to the purse.

Purse, I love you, purse. Or, at least, I don't have near meltdowns in public when I use one. Which is also love.

I'm a terrible friend. We'll just leave it at that. Shut up, Aimee.

I was going to post about the rudeness of couples earlier, but I felt I should wait until Andi came home, so as not to be rude.

Generally the only time Andi and I are rude to each other is when we are being hit by outside forces. If it happens, I usually apologize and we move on.

You are entitled to your feelings, Aims, and if they conflict with her needs, then she should find comfort elsewhere. Your feelings are no less important than hers. You are not a bitch for feeling. And you should not have to shut up about them to spare hers.

Honestly, you're a saint. I can't even imagine being in the same room with her, if I were in your place.

Aw, Aims, that sucks so hard. It awful that their situation happens to intersect with something so intensely painful for you, but it's no one's fault and your feelings do not make you a bitch or a bad friend. They just are what they are. Maybe if you were unloading all this on her instead of here. But that's why you have us to come to.

I'm a terrible friend. We'll just leave it at that. Shut up, Aimee.

I disagree, but won't drag out the discussion for your sake.

Feelings are real and insensitivity is insensitivity.

I hope you can slip in a change of subject so that things get less tense.

Bless your heart.

Thank you guys, so very much. For the most part the whole situation is much like Schroedinger's Cat - I'm not around it, it does not exist. But then I get around it and I just feel like my heart breaks all over again.

I am so glad I have you guys. So very glad. It's been a rought few months. Thankfully, it should be "over" in a few weeks.