Dear mother, please stop talking about how you are doing "everything" by yourself, as if that's some miracle or someone should be doing it for you. If you want to renovate your house, you can't expect someone to do it for you.
Well, we may not have parted on the best of terms. I realize certain words were exchanged. Also, certain... bullets. But that's air through the engine. It's past. We're business people.
Mal ,'Serenity'
Spike's Bitches 46: Don't I get a cookie?
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Vortex - Feb 16, 2011 6:35:33 am PST #15690 of 30000
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman
Scrappy - Feb 16, 2011 6:43:16 am PST #15691 of 30000
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.
patting someone on the head pretty much just pounds them down, more securely in the spot where they stand.
A big "aha" moment with my therapist was talking about my lack of self esteem. I said "My parents were very supportive. My mom tells me I'm perfect all the time." She said "Are you perfect?" "No." "So, you know that's not true. No reason to listen to something which is not true. How is that helpful to your understanding of yourself as you actually are?" DINGDINGDING
Laura - Feb 16, 2011 6:55:43 am PST #15692 of 30000
Our wings are not tired.
"You are hideously inept at getting yourself out of bad situations, so maybe try not getting into them, or at least set a time limit."I like that advice! Sounds so much more useful than asking, "and how does that make you feel?"
Aims, it sounds like you have a good plan. Personally I think it would be better if school had more play time both in 1st grade and beyond.
beekaytee - Feb 16, 2011 7:08:00 am PST #15693 of 30000
Compassionately intolerant
A big "aha" moment with my therapist was talking about my lack of self esteem. I said "My parents were very supportive. My mom tells me I'm perfect all the time." She said "Are you perfect?" "No." "So, you know that's not true. No reason to listen to something which is not true. How is that helpful to your understanding of yourself as you actually are?" DINGDINGDING
Yeah, buddy!
I'm a huge fan of reality. If it ain't workin', it ain't workin'...no matter what it looks like. You must go with the reality of the moment, period!
> at least set a time limit.
I love this too. I have a habit of having ugly arguments with people in my mind. Fortunately, I've gotten to the point where I will enjoy the recreation of it for 10 minutes and then get on with my day.
You don't have to give it up altogether, but it is helpful to know what it is really about.
Frankenbuddha - Feb 16, 2011 7:08:46 am PST #15694 of 30000
"We are the Goon Squad and we're coming to town...Beep! Beep!" - David Bowie, "Fashion"
I feel like the flammable court jester.
That just means you can speak truth to power. While on fire.
beekaytee - Feb 16, 2011 7:12:03 am PST #15695 of 30000
Compassionately intolerant
That just means you can speak truth to power. While on fire.
A powerful niche to have.
§ ita § - Feb 16, 2011 7:19:33 am PST #15696 of 30000
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
I like to think my parents' focus on my fallibility was a good thing for my emotional development.
Of course, now they're all "You're doing so well, considering!"
Uh, thanks?
smonster - Feb 16, 2011 7:53:55 am PST #15697 of 30000
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.
Ahahaha, Vortex, that is one of my favorite songs.
smonster, I love your therapist too...except for the hideously bad thing.
Not bad, inept. And he's right! It's a long-standing pattern for me. He doesn't say stuff in a mean way, I barked with laughter when he made that comment. He's kind of like Clinton on What Not to Wear.
That just means you can speak truth to power. While on fire.
Just make sure you have a Holocaust Cloak.
Zenkitty - Feb 16, 2011 7:55:39 am PST #15698 of 30000
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
That just means you can speak truth to power. While on fire.
Being on fire tends to get Power's attention too. Especially if you're close to them.
Vortex - Feb 16, 2011 8:05:53 am PST #15699 of 30000
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman
Ahahaha, Vortex, that is one of my favorite songs.
yes, I know ;)
Dear Mother, please do not bitch about how no one helps you, and when I say "we'll be there on Sunday, we'll do it", start making excuses why it can't be done.