( continues...) anymore than I took the first person’s word for it that she had ADHD.
Opinions anyone? Am I crazy parent or normal parent?
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Aims - Feb 15, 2011 4:00:16 pm PST #15646 of 30000
Shit's all sorts of different now.
quester - Feb 15, 2011 4:07:57 pm PST #15647 of 30000
Danger is my middle name, only I spell it R. u. t. h. - Tina Belcher.
go you, Aims! Stand up for Em!
Says the girl who was bullied by a teacher in first grade.
Hil R. - Feb 15, 2011 4:14:53 pm PST #15648 of 30000
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Aims, what you wrote all sounds like a reasonable response. One teacher's say-so should not be the final word, and it does sound like Em would do better in a more structured environment. (Hell, I'm a 30-year-old with ADD, and I still have a ton of trouble with unscheduled time. I've learned how to look at my list of things to do and make a schedule, but I can easily see how that could be really frustrating for a little kid.)
brenda m - Feb 15, 2011 4:15:31 pm PST #15649 of 30000
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I will say that being the youngest, and by such a margin. is not necessarily the greatest thing. I'm not sure how it impacts now, but throughout her schooling years, it can be a hard thing. So I would say to try to not let the "retained!" idea loom too large in your minds.
That said, it does sound like there's a lot going on that has nothing to do with that, and you happen to be in a position to observe and evaluate that in a way most parents can't. So yeah, I'd be fighting on this. And I have a hard time thinking other teachers in the school (possibly excepting Ms. N) will have an issue.
sj - Feb 15, 2011 4:16:50 pm PST #15650 of 30000
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Aims, I only have advice on issue #2. When I was Emeline's age I was awful at reading aloud in class, and it was totally related to me not wanting to be the center of attention or be embarrassed in front of the other students, so if Emeline is having embarrassment issues it could very well be related to that. I too could read aloud to my mother with no issues.
Aims - Feb 15, 2011 4:18:28 pm PST #15651 of 30000
Shit's all sorts of different now.
My ADHD looks like this: I get overwhelmed, I shut down and don't do anything. I think that Em does the same. And the more pressure she gets, the more she shuts down. I think Tep has talked about The Boy's ADHD looking like that as well? As adults, we can list and prioritize. At 6, I don't think it's terribly reasonable.
And I'm glad my response is coming off as reasonable. I'm trying to do what's best for Em but also come at this from the angle of being a future teacher.
Laura - Feb 15, 2011 4:19:20 pm PST #15652 of 30000
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You are not a crazy parent, or a normal parent. You are an exceptional, concerned, and caring parent.
You have to go with your gut feeling on this. I decided to keep Bobby back one year because he was the youngest in class and very immature. I took him out mid year and home schooled him, then put him back in the same class the next year. (1st grade) It was my decision and the school went along with my wishes. His teacher felt he could stay in the class and he would have passed, she also expressed some concern since he already was bigger than the rest of the kids, but ultimately agreed that he was immature and that I knew my child best.
Brendon and I have suffered each and every year with both boys over what was the right and best thing to do. Pure torture. But my one piece of advice is to trust your ability to make the best choice for your child. No one knows her like you and Joe.
The other teachers here will likely have better advice on the academic side of the picture. But you have the teacher view too, although of course biased, as it should be!
sj - Feb 15, 2011 4:20:31 pm PST #15653 of 30000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
My ADHD looks like this: I get overwhelmed, I shut down and don't do anything.
Yup, mine too.
smonster - Feb 15, 2011 4:21:23 pm PST #15654 of 30000
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Aims - Feb 15, 2011 4:21:58 pm PST #15655 of 30000
Shit's all sorts of different now.
sj - I totally hear that and interestingly, so do a lot of schools, including ours, that do not do out loud reading in classrooms anymore. They are tested on their verbal reading one-on-one with teachers.
brenda - yeah. I totally get the age thing and I'm not worried too much about the stigma of her being retained. It would be the perfect time - next year all the kids move on to other schools for 2nd grade so it's not like she'd get crap from the other kids. And for those that would still be in this school, she'd be in a different classroom, so not too much issue there, either. Joe, OTOH, is having a harder time with the thought of retention than I am.