Yeah he's helping me with trying to find a place, but I've contacted a few places and they haven't been receptive to the renting to someone without meeting them in person.

I'll ask my brother what they did. But -- people move across the country all the time and have to rent a place sight unseen (several people here have done it, IIRC); maybe you just need the right script for what to tell potential landlords.

When I moved to PA, I took a weekend trip here a few weeks before the move and looked at a few apartments and decided which one to rent. I'd made calls during the previous week to set up appointments to look at apartments. (I had less than a month to move, though.)

The other thing is I haven't set down a firm date to move, I have an idea but not a firm date, but I'm not sure how about the right script.

We've been talking about this for almost a year now and it's getting to feel more real and of course I have all these anxieties that it's not going to happen.

Happy birthday, Pix!
Happy birthday, Maria!

Meanwhile, on the other side of Earth: watch as I'm trying not to kill people and temper my justified rage. Because I LOVE it when someone tells me he'll do something, I'm trusting her, and then find out after 3 weeks she hasn't lift a finger - after I asked her several times if it's working for her and if she needs help.

Remind me again, why do I trust people?

Because being disapointed and let down sometimes is still a better way to live than never trusting people.

I'm not talking about not trusting friends, etc.. I'm talking about working with people, academically and in work, and in volunteering gigs. And you know what? Only rarely, very rarely, I worked with people I can really trust. People that I didn't need to nag and babysit every time.

I have no problem remind people they said they'll do this and that in x or y, and checking up on them. It's tiring sometimes, but I understand that's part of the deal, and why some people choose to work with me - because I check up on people, making sure they're doing whatever needs to be done. It's a problem when I do that, and yet, they can't be bothered telling me when there's a problem.

So, humans - why? Why messing with my mind? Why playing it this way?

Because you know us?

Buffistas are gold.

Other people... well, they're others.

Happy Birthday!! To Pix and Maria!

I rented a place off craigslist (a sublet) without seeing it, but Plei kindly brought the girl money and got keys for me. One yhing to consider--how quickly do people/places rent? I realized here in Seattle they generally go on craigslist when they're open or not lOng before whereas in DC it was "as soon as the current renters give notice", so a month before. If it wouldn't be lOng could you crash with will for a week til you find a place?