Bailed. Time for nap.
Lorne: You know what they say about people who need people. Connor: They're the luckiest people in the world. Lorne: You been sneaking peeks at my Streisand collection again, Kiddo? Connor: Just kinda popped out.
'Time Bomb'
Spike's Bitches 46: Don't I get a cookie?
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
smonster - Sep 07, 2010 12:54:07 pm PDT #1519 of 30000
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.
Scrappy - Sep 07, 2010 12:57:41 pm PDT #1520 of 30000
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.
Worrying that people don't want to be around you sounds exactly like insecurity to me. Worrying that they are judging you every time you open your mouth--especially in a group--is a form of arrogance, I think. It makes the dynamic all about YOU and how YOU sound, when it's really just a bunch of people with the same wish not to make fools of themselves. You are not speaking to protect yourself from sounding foolish, and leaving others to fill the gaps.
It doesn't mean I don't feel that myself plenty of times, but it can be seen as a form of arrogance.
Daisy Jane - Sep 07, 2010 1:06:42 pm PDT #1521 of 30000
"This bar smells like kerosene and stripper tears."
It comes from a very, "I'm sure they have stuff that's better/more important/more fun than going to dinner/seeing a movie/grabbing a drink with me." I'm pretty sure that's the opposite.
brenda m - Sep 07, 2010 1:10:04 pm PDT #1522 of 30000
If you're going through hell/keep on going/don't slow down/keep your fear from showing/you might be gone/'fore the devil even knows you're there
It comes from a very, "I'm sure they have stuff that's better/more important/more fun than going to dinner/seeing a movie/grabbing a drink with me." I'm pretty sure that's the opposite.
So much this.
ChiKat - Sep 07, 2010 1:13:36 pm PDT #1523 of 30000
That man was going to shank me. Over an omelette. Two eggs and a slice of government cheese. Is that what my life is worth?
But after a weekend (since Thursday night) where he longest I was alone was one streetcar ride to and from lunch on Friday? The only thing I miss is my bed, not alone time.
OMG. I would totally need to crawl in a hole far far away from The People for a week after that. I'm not even sure I would make it through the whole weekend. I'm fairly sure I wouldn't.
Worrying that they are judging you every time you open your mouth--especially in a group--is a form of arrogance, I think. It makes the dynamic all about YOU and how YOU sound
It's narcissistic to think everyone is concerned about what YOU are doing all the time. That's for sure. But that's not being shy.
Steph L. - Sep 07, 2010 1:18:11 pm PDT #1524 of 30000
I look more rad than Lutheranism
Me too, and my psychologist friend says that's what makes me an introvert, not how you act, but how you recharge.
Huh. Really? Because in no universe would I describe myself as an introvert. I just also need time to myself every now and then.
There's probably a continuum. I mean, 24 Hour Party People is only a movie.
Worrying that they are judging you every time you open your mouth--especially in a group--is a form of arrogance, I think. It makes the dynamic all about YOU and how YOU sound
Oooh, ouch. That hits a little too close to home. (And I don't mean that in a "How DARE Scrappy say that?!?" way; I mean it in a, "Huh, maybe I need to engage in a little self-reflection" way.)
Polter-Cow - Sep 07, 2010 1:20:12 pm PDT #1525 of 30000
What else besides ramen can you scoop? YOU CAN SCOOP THIS WORLD FROM DARKNESS!
I have a severe fear that people don't actually like me or want to be around me, so asking people if they want to do things with me is almost undoable. I'm also afraid that people who I don't know very well, and who I am hanging out with for the first few times I am convinced I am irritating them.
Hey, we're the same person today!
It comes from a very, "I'm sure they have stuff that's better/more important/more fun than going to dinner/seeing a movie/grabbing a drink with me."
Yep!
Vortex - Sep 07, 2010 1:23:22 pm PDT #1526 of 30000
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman
Huh. Really? Because in no universe would I describe myself as an introvert. I just also need time to myself every now and then.
I agree with you, but she went to school for a long time, so I let it go.
Daisy Jane - Sep 07, 2010 1:24:35 pm PDT #1527 of 30000
"This bar smells like kerosene and stripper tears."
I agree with you, but she went to school for a long time, so I let it go.
I am so using this with my know-it-all friend who is often full of shit.
P.M. Marc - Sep 07, 2010 1:28:50 pm PDT #1528 of 30000
So come, my friends, be not afraid/We are so lightly here/It is in love that we are made; In love we disappear
Worrying that they are judging you every time you open your mouth--especially in a group--is a form of arrogance, I think. It makes the dynamic all about YOU and how YOU sound
Eh, in my case, it's because I'm neurologically crap at cues, which means most of the data I've registered has been the negative reactions, which means I'm constently on guard worrying that I'm going to say something that is socially incorrect, because it is a CONSTANT battle figuring this out, so it's a survival reaction.
Doesn't make it a form of arrogance, but it is a strong contributing factor to my raging anxiety disorder.