Every. Time. you find yourself obsessing know that what you REALLY want is NOT breaking your moral code, or acquiring a memory that will follow you for a very long time (believe me, I know whereof I speak).

Shout to yourself, What do I really want?! I want to feel GOOD! Then find something else that makes you feel good.

bonny, I bookmark A LOT of your posts. There's often something that speaks directly into my life. So thank you for sharing your wisdom and your self with us.

I'm finding it rather boggling. I despise acting less than competent in front of strangers--being lost, having trouble parking, and such--but I wasn't aware that eating in public--or just buying your groceries!--could be a fraught issue.

I have a friend who says that he won't buy toilet paper in bulk (like Costco) because he says that when people see the large amount of toilet paper, they think about how much you poop. I think he's ridiculous.

I agree Vortex.

If I see someone with Bulk toilet paper, I don't think of the act of use, I think, "probably has a family."

Well, that and the fact that my friend Larry once got a good deal on toilet paper and filled one wall of his bathroom to the ceiling three or four rolls deep with packages of it.

I think "oh, they must have a lot of storage. I want more storage"

I have a friend who says that he won't buy toilet paper in bulk (like Costco) because he says that when people see the large amount of toilet paper, they think about how much you poop. I think he's ridiculous.

Unless he's storing it in a pyramid in his living room under a sign that says "I poop THIS MUCH", I think most people can avoid the connotation.

Seriously. Most people are not going to think about your toilet habits, and who cares what the wackaloons think?

Especially at Costco. I mean, everyone goes there to buy mass quantities of everything. That's whole POINT.

Yeah. That's like a Terence Howard level of weirdness right there.

Yeah. Even if you were buying multiple huge things of TP at Costco, I'd probably just vaguely wonder if you were supplying a group or something (like, buying as part of your job, for the office/church/daycare/whatever).

All my issues about other people judging me, about being uncomfortable in public sort of mostly went away when I incorporated the idea and made it mine, that most people are so self-absorbed they really don't notice anybody else screwing up.

I mean, think about it. You're in the food court at the mall. Do you seriously look at every person there, grade what they're wearing, evaluate their body and makeup, and pass judgement on what they're eating? If there are three dozen people, you might notice one awful sweater, one atrocious dye job, a hideous phone voice, and someone's less-than wise lunch choices. That's four people, with one foible each, out of three dozen. How many of them have judged you on those points?

And really, do you care? They're strangers, and they're all probablly either boring or weird, so why should it matter what they think? Read your book, sip your latte, and give yourself a break. You're fine, really. And if somebody takes issue with your clothing choices, scroom.

Same goes for your grocery cart. Though I do confess I have on occasion bought things in strange and random combinations just to elicit a reaction from a checker or other customers. Cause that's the kind of girl I am.