they wrote the deposit check and each kid needs to send them $1,000 right away or their check will bounce.
Yeah, I'd be mad about that part. More than if they'd said, like, "aww, a cruise is nice of you! but we'd really rather have X..."
gaining weight on antiDs: I swear there hasn't been one that I haven't gained 15 or twenty pounds on. Even Welbutrin. The cumulative effect being ridiculous. I know that changes in my lifestyle, not to mention getting into my 40s, would put weight on me if I weren't careful, and I haven't been particularly careful! but to gain *this much* is ridiculous. I weigh 100 pounds more than I should, and I never thought I should be skinny either. It's very frustrating.
Dana--yes, they have. First, FiL wanted a new Mustang and asked us to cosign for him, which we didn't. They live in a nice house on SiL's property with nominal rent, which they don't always pay and other sister sends them some money every month. We don't, since DH moved out when he was 16 and they haven't contributed a dime since them--he worked his way through college and grad school.We send them presents and have them stay in out house on visits and buy them meals and everything, we just don't give them extra money. DH's dad was an engineer, it's not like they couldn't have saved some money along the way.
It's very rude, but what can you do?
Not write a check under these circumstances, that's for damned sure. That's not a gift, that's coercion.
It is rude. Are the cruise tickets even refundable?
Scrappy, I'd be livid. Not even consulting y'all about it is crappy. They sound like spoiled kids, really.
Rapid strep negative, they're culturing for strep and testing for flu.
aww, a cruise is nice of you! but we'd really rather have X..."
This, at which point the kids could have decided if they wanted to shift their gift.
Wow. I'd faint dead away before doing something like that with such a lovely and generous gift. Now, given my motion sickness issues, I would have as humbly as possible suggested the alternative, but NEVER a demand like that. Just. wow.
quick healing ~ma, smonster!
What everyone said, Scrappy. If they were my parents, I'm not sure if I'd be mad - but I'd probably be hurt by their reaction.
Dana--yes, they have. First, FiL wanted a new Mustang and asked us to cosign for him, which we didn't.
This just makes it worse - it's doing an end run around something they already know you don't really want to support.
smonster, i hope your throat clears up quickly. that's just miserable.
Scrappy, another vote for "insanity." Who buys their own gift and then guilts their kids into paying for it? That's extremely rude.
