Dana--yes, they have. First, FiL wanted a new Mustang and asked us to cosign for him, which we didn't. They live in a nice house on SiL's property with nominal rent, which they don't always pay and other sister sends them some money every month. We don't, since DH moved out when he was 16 and they haven't contributed a dime since them--he worked his way through college and grad school.We send them presents and have them stay in out house on visits and buy them meals and everything, we just don't give them extra money. DH's dad was an engineer, it's not like they couldn't have saved some money along the way.
Doesn't matter that we took him off that boat, Shepherd, it's the place he's going to live from now on.
Mal ,'Bushwhacked'
Spike's Bitches 46: Don't I get a cookie?
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Scrappy - Jan 10, 2011 11:02:16 am PST #12774 of 30000
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.
javachik - Jan 10, 2011 11:05:25 am PST #12775 of 30000
Our wings are not tired.
It's very rude, but what can you do?
Not write a check under these circumstances, that's for damned sure. That's not a gift, that's coercion.
ChiKat - Jan 10, 2011 11:06:51 am PST #12776 of 30000
That man was going to shank me. Over an omelette. Two eggs and a slice of government cheese. Is that what my life is worth?
It is rude. Are the cruise tickets even refundable?
smonster - Jan 10, 2011 11:07:11 am PST #12777 of 30000
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.
Scrappy, I'd be livid. Not even consulting y'all about it is crappy. They sound like spoiled kids, really.
Rapid strep negative, they're culturing for strep and testing for flu.
beekaytee - Jan 10, 2011 11:08:38 am PST #12778 of 30000
Compassionately intolerant
aww, a cruise is nice of you! but we'd really rather have X..."
This, at which point the kids could have decided if they wanted to shift their gift.
Wow. I'd faint dead away before doing something like that with such a lovely and generous gift. Now, given my motion sickness issues, I would have as humbly as possible suggested the alternative, but NEVER a demand like that. Just. wow.
beekaytee - Jan 10, 2011 11:09:19 am PST #12779 of 30000
Compassionately intolerant
quick healing ~ma, smonster!
Shir - Jan 10, 2011 11:17:10 am PST #12780 of 30000
"And that's why God Almighty gave us fire insurance and the public defender".
What everyone said, Scrappy. If they were my parents, I'm not sure if I'd be mad - but I'd probably be hurt by their reaction.
brenda m - Jan 10, 2011 11:17:21 am PST #12781 of 30000
If you're going through hell/keep on going/don't slow down/keep your fear from showing/you might be gone/'fore the devil even knows you're there
Dana--yes, they have. First, FiL wanted a new Mustang and asked us to cosign for him, which we didn't.
This just makes it worse - it's doing an end run around something they already know you don't really want to support.
erin_obscure - Jan 10, 2011 11:22:59 am PST #12782 of 30000
Occasionally I’m callous and strange
smonster, i hope your throat clears up quickly. that's just miserable.
Scrappy, another vote for "insanity." Who buys their own gift and then guilts their kids into paying for it? That's extremely rude.
beekaytee - Jan 10, 2011 11:27:13 am PST #12783 of 30000
Compassionately intolerant
This just makes it worse - it's doing an end run around something they already know you don't really want to support.
brenda makes an excellent point.