The way forward is not easy,Daniel, but you are doing it. good job

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I'm sorry work and bills are sucking, DCJ, but paying off your credit card debt is an enormous accomplishment. Go you! Go Sophia!

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ION, my awesome doctor had a cancellation today, so I can see him about half an hour from now instead of 5 pm tomorrow. This is good.

I have to admit I'm a little...something -- concerned? Wary? Intrigued? -- about the appointment, because since the last time I saw him (months and months ago), I referred 2 friends to him. Both are from the kink group. Everyone knows that you DO NOT out someone else, ever. So, like, if Awesome Doctor asked Friend #1 how she knows me, the answer is just "We're friends."

And Friend #1 is totally chill like that. Friend #2, however, is the type of person who never, EVER thinks before she opens her mouth. EVER. Kind of Anya-esque. And she's not too concerned about people knowing she's kinky. (Which is fine -- if someone is at a place in their life where they can be out about it, more power to them. But I am NOT at that place.)

So I'm honestly expecting that, when Awesome Doctor asked how she knows me, Friend #2 blurted out, "Oh, from the kink group! You know!"

She had been sick with a nagging something that wouldn't go away, and she moved here a couple of years ago and never got set up with a new primary-care doctor. So when she mentioned that she was sick and didn't know where to go, I recommended Awesome Doctor. (Because he is Awesome.) And then the next day it hit me that I recommended my doctor to someone who could out me -- not intentionally, but intent doesn't matter in this case.

I e-mailed her and told her that I am not out to my doctor, and that I was SURE she'd never say such a thing (I feel flattery, even if it's bending the truth, is the best way to go in things like this), but to please not say she knows me from the kink group. I never got a response (I'm not even sure she reads her e-mail), so it's entirely possible that I'll show up and Awesome Doctor will give me the stinkeye. (Though it would be a violation of HER privacy if he said anything about what *she* said, so...)

He's cool, and would no doubt be cool with my stuff if I chose to tell him. But *if* I ever do, I want it to be because *I* decided to, not because the world's most indiscreet person blurted it out.

So we'll see. Soon.

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shir: "But I do plan to scold anyone who won't be fun today."

So far tracked down a quote from a journalist who comment casually while accompanying an expedition against Sitting Bull on how valuable the coal on Sioux land would prove, once all the Sioux were in the "Happy Hunting Ground". And, (much more easily) tracked down the best estimate for the value of slaves as a percentage of all assets in the U.S. in 1860. I'm afraid neither of those things qualify...

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Steph, the proper thing in that situation, is for both of you to pretend nothing happened, even if he knows.

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Steph, the proper thing in that situation, is for both of you to pretend nothing happened, even if he knows.

Oh, I'm not gonna ask or anything. I'm just wondering if she blurted it out, as is her wont. (Seriously, the stories I could tell about what she thinks is acceptable conversation in restaurants -- oh my god. I think she was just born without any tact or shame whatsoever.)

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Tact is just not saying true stuff. She'll pass.

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I second Dana, I think. Good luck. And man, the year you've been through... I know it's not much, but you're in my thoughts. A lot.

And Typo - I'm sorry, I must have missed something here: Typo Boy "Spike's Bitches 46: Don't I get a cookie?" Dec 7, 2010 10:10:38 am PST are the two parts of your post connected?

All in all, btw, awesome day so far.

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{{{ Steph }}} You have had a rough year. You have every right to say what ever you need saying to help you through it! That's what we are here for, no?

DCJ, that is awesome news! Way to go!

Nooo! And leave Fluffy?

She will be there tonight when I get home. And judging by past actions, odds are good I'll pass it in fluffy again. No worries!

ION- Forgot to mention last night, I too have finally paid off the visa! Woot! Debt free feels good. :: eyes new iPhone4 ::

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Back from the doctor -- he did not give me the stink-eye, told me I probably wouldn't die from this cold (psht! like he knows), and doubled my AD dose.

So that happened.

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