Oh, I bought a big Leverage mug from their store! I should go have some tea in it and watch Leverage again.

Of the people I know in a long-term monogamous relationship who identify as bi, all are with a man.

I assume we're talking about women? Anyway, I know the point you're making. I figure, for people who are bi, chances are they're likely to come into contact with more straight-people-of-the-opposite-gender than queer-people-of-the-same-gender over the course of their lifetime -- straight people outnumbering queer people by a sizable margin* -- so therefore they're more likely to meet a compatible person of the opposite gender than the same gender, statistically speaking. In other words: it shouldn't really be surprising if there are more bi people married to/partnered with people of the opposite gender than with people of the same gender. It's just how the numbers work. But it sure as hell doesn't mean they're not still bisexual (or however they choose to define themselves).

* I do think this is essentially true, but I'm aware it's a topic worthy of debate, especially getting into the question of what constitutes "queer" and who gets to define that.

I can certainly find women hot, and would never rule out sex with a woman, but I seek/want relationships with men. I would id myself as straight, French vanilla, occasionally with jalapenos.

Hee! I love this. I usually refer to myself as "basically straight," which I like because it leaves a little bit of wiggle room. With no qualifiers, "straight" feels too much like a straitjacket.

it shouldn't really be surprising if there are more bi people married to/partnered with people of the opposite gender than with people of the same gender

But that's not what he said--he said they're with men. He didn't say they were women.

I don't know what label fits me. At any given time, I might like everything, or I might not like anything. Is there a term for "aloof and capricious"?

Pansexual?

"But in this ever changing world in which we're living..."

This is not what they are saying?!?

I'm pretty sure not.

I thought it was

in this ever-changing world in which we live in

which makes me gnash my teeth. There's a U2 song with the lyric

and the sun in the sky makes a shadow of you and I

and every time I yell, "I don't care if it rhymes! It's WRONG!" but Bono does not listen to me.

Pansexual?

mmmMaybe. Except for the "not liking anything" times.

Unspecifiedsexual?

Oh, I can be very specific.

But that's not what he said--he said they're with men. He didn't say they were women.

Well, he said they were with men, which makes people assume they are straight. So I am assuming he is talking specifically about women, unless I am totally misreading his post.

edit: OK, now I'm going back and looking at Gud's post again, and I don't actually see him saying that people are assuming they're straight, just that they're not bi. So I am fighting a slightly different fight here. Oops! Carry on...

Pansexual?

mmmMaybe. Except for the "not liking anything" times.

Well, I think there are times that most, if not all, people fall under "not liking anything," but I don't think it makes them cease to be straight/bi/gay, unless it becomes a permanent thing.

But I got NO idea of what to even call myself, so don't take my addlepated advice.