Sharing because I think it's interesting and we are already seeing small positive results - Part of why I decided to adjust my work schedule and come home was reading something from another adoptive parent about a strategy called 10/20/10. I think it is from a guy named Brian Post, but I could be wrong. Transitions are tough for most kids, but have been found to be especially hard for kids with attachment issues, doubly so if the transition involves moving from one adult (authority figure/companion) to another. The strategy is to spend 10 minutes first thing in the morning, 20 minutes when they get home from school (or parent gets home from work), and 10 minutes right at bedtime with one-on-one focused attention with one of the primary caregivers.
We've always done one-on-one quiet time at night, but I added the other two. This is just day 2. Mac, at this moment right now, is doing homework by his own choice with the babysitter while I am in my room working remotely.
I know it is not the only reason he is having a better day then we've had in 4-5 days, we saw his psychiatrist last night also. But I do think this method is helping him right now.
This day has gone so wrong, I don't even want to come into work tomorrow. But I will. I have no energy to do the community association meeting tonight. I hate missing it, but no way I can make it now.
msbelle - I don't know much about attachment issues, but the 10/20/10 sounds like a great idea. I modified my work hours a few years ago such that I'm in the office early and I'm home soon after CJ gets home. When he was younger, my mom was around to get him off to school, but now we leave at the same time. Just being there in the afternoon seems to have helped with his acting out.
I can see where that would be beneficial, msbelle, without knowing anything about it. Hope the trend holds.
Ugh, sara. I hope things improve. Take care of yourself first - you'll hit the next meeting.
If I'm making a rhubarb crisp to take into work tomorrow, should I do it tonight or get up early so it bakes and cools before I go in? I've done that with brownies and stuff before but I'm afraid this might be too liquidy.
I have no rhubarb cooking knowledge.
What's the advantage to doing it in the morning? Is it just "then I don't have to do it tonight" or "it's fresher" or? I'd vote doing it tonight...
So it's crispier, I guess? Or still warm? I think I'll do it tonight. My coworker promised to make brownies and then realized she's WFH tomorrow. She's going to drop them off with me so if I have to juggle two pans, I don't need either of them hot or gooey. (It's someone's b-day tomorrow. We get shit for doing potlucks but can still get away with birthday treats.)
Some poor guy on our local newspaper forum just got accused of being my sock puppet.
