No man has ever asked me how old I am. Not even on my birthdays. Though one guy did spit coke when I told him. (I was 16. He thought I was 21.)
Wash: I didn't think you were one for rituals and such. Mal: I'm not, but it'll keep the others busy for a while. No reason to concern them with what's to be done.
'Bushwhacked'
Natter 66: Get Your Kicks.
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Zenkitty - Jul 22, 2010 6:08:25 pm PDT #14203 of 30001
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
megan walker - Jul 22, 2010 6:09:14 pm PDT #14204 of 30001
"What kind of magical sunshine and lollipop world do you live in? Because you need to be medicated."-SFist
at what point should she tell him her age?
If and when he asks.
I don't see how this is an ethical dilemma.
Hil R. - Jul 22, 2010 6:09:45 pm PDT #14205 of 30001
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l
I'd say when he asks, but also to correct him if he says something that assumes you're some other age. (I had a "Wait, what?" moment when a guy I was sort of seeing told me he was ten years older than I'd thought he was, and this was after I'd made plenty of "When we were kids ..." and "For people our age ..." type statements that he just nodded along with.)
Zenkitty - Jul 22, 2010 6:11:04 pm PDT #14206 of 30001
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
The ethical part is, how soon should she tell him she won't be bearing the fruit of his mighty loins? It seems like a thing a guy ought to know about his possible SO, before he reaches the point of, like, making plans, but telling too soon is creepy. I don't know. Take into account I'm a little drunk right now and feeling insecure.
Steph L. - Jul 22, 2010 6:11:51 pm PDT #14207 of 30001
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine
Who wants to weigh in on the pros and cons and possible ethical dilemmas regarding a 47-y-o woman dating a 35-y-o man? A childless man whose position on future children-having is unknown, I should add. Specifically, though not excluding other factors, at what point should she tell him her age?
What javachik said.
Shit, my mom and stepdad got together when she was 43 and he was 31. A 12-year gap is no big thing. Be like them!
§ ita § - Jul 22, 2010 6:13:24 pm PDT #14208 of 30001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
There is zero ethical dilemma involved in dating a man of legal age. Why should there be?
Dating and breeding are not equivalent. Even if one is of childbearing age, that doesn't mean they want to.
Typo Boy - Jul 22, 2010 6:14:16 pm PDT #14209 of 30001
Calli: My people have a saying. A man who trusts can never be betrayed, only mistaken.Avon: Life expectancy among your people must be extremely short.
I'd say Hil's answer is good.
megan walker - Jul 22, 2010 6:14:35 pm PDT #14210 of 30001
"What kind of magical sunshine and lollipop world do you live in? Because you need to be medicated."-SFist
The ethical part is, how soon should she tell him she won't be bearing the fruit of his mighty loins? It seems like a thing a guy ought to know about his possible SO, before he reaches the point of, like, making plans, but telling too soon is creepy. I don't know. Take into account I'm a little drunk right now and feeling insecure.
I don't think it's fair to expect that discussion to happen until they are actually talking about having children together. What if she just didn't want to have them? Or was 30, but couldn't?
Typo Boy - Jul 22, 2010 6:15:25 pm PDT #14211 of 30001
Calli: My people have a saying. A man who trusts can never be betrayed, only mistaken.Avon: Life expectancy among your people must be extremely short.
And as for ethical dilemmas, none. My Mom was 12 years older than my late Dad. Happily married for 40 years, and one of the things he said before he died was to apologize for leaving her a young widow.
Zenkitty - Jul 22, 2010 6:15:46 pm PDT #14212 of 30001
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
So... just roll with it, is the gist of the advice here? I guess I can do that.