Which principle, Jesse?

The Jesse deserves chocolate principle?

I have a cat! Not that I would ever say I am his mother.

I'm just saying, if my aunt gets a mother's day present because she has cats, I should, too! Of course, if she had done that, my eyes would have rolled out of my head.

Then my mother was eyerolling that they gave all of us women a rose at the restaurant. I was like, do you know how much pain and suffering it would cause if they asked each woman if she was a mother???

I got lots of mother's day greetings for being Bartleby's person today. I don't use the term 'mom' either.

5 years, or so ago, before Western Union stopped doing it, a friend sent me a telegram 'from Bartleby.' It was really sweet.

I was like, do you know how much pain and suffering it would cause if they asked each woman if she was a mother???

My friends who run the children's consignment shop down the street gave every woman who came in a pink carnation. I thought that was sweet too.

I have to admit I find it more irking when people seem to think that every woman needs to be acknowledged as a mother for some reason. [I had a dog, and we were very close. I was not her or anyone's mother.]

But I'm sure for your grandma it was more about not giving a gift to one daughter and not the other, which is why you didn't get any.

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I was like, do you know how much pain and suffering it would cause if they asked each woman if she was a mother???

For serious. I find it irksome, but that's about it. I know a lot of women for whom it would be intensely painful.

But I'm sure for your grandma it was more about not giving a gift to one daughter and not the other, which is why you didn't get any.

Oh, absolutely for sure. Which is why I don't actually care.

I have to admit I find it more irking when people seem to think that every woman needs to be acknowledged as a mother for some reason.

I like to think of it as not excluding some women, although it is true that it's problematic to implicitly code all women as mothers.

I have to admit I find it more irking when people seem to think that every woman needs to be acknowledged as a mother for some reason.

I totally get this point, though it didn't even occur to me before you said it.

My mother never made a big deal of Mother's Day. I don't think we ever did more than give her a card. She would say, I'm a mother every day, so every day is Mother's Day for me!

I think it's great to set aside a day to recognize the people who are important in your life. I just think it should be more private, I guess. I get why businesses would want to use it to make a few bucks, but things like restaurants handing out roses to every woman is ridiculous, and potentially painful to too many people. I know women who basically hide on Mother's Day, and that just shouldn't be.