I'm just saying, if my aunt gets a mother's day present because she has cats, I should, too! Of course, if she had done that, my eyes would have rolled out of my head.

Then my mother was eyerolling that they gave all of us women a rose at the restaurant. I was like, do you know how much pain and suffering it would cause if they asked each woman if she was a mother???

I got lots of mother's day greetings for being Bartleby's person today. I don't use the term 'mom' either.

5 years, or so ago, before Western Union stopped doing it, a friend sent me a telegram 'from Bartleby.' It was really sweet.

I was like, do you know how much pain and suffering it would cause if they asked each woman if she was a mother???

My friends who run the children's consignment shop down the street gave every woman who came in a pink carnation. I thought that was sweet too.

I have to admit I find it more irking when people seem to think that every woman needs to be acknowledged as a mother for some reason. [I had a dog, and we were very close. I was not her or anyone's mother.]

But I'm sure for your grandma it was more about not giving a gift to one daughter and not the other, which is why you didn't get any.

ETA:

I was like, do you know how much pain and suffering it would cause if they asked each woman if she was a mother???

For serious. I find it irksome, but that's about it. I know a lot of women for whom it would be intensely painful.

But I'm sure for your grandma it was more about not giving a gift to one daughter and not the other, which is why you didn't get any.

Oh, absolutely for sure. Which is why I don't actually care.

I have to admit I find it more irking when people seem to think that every woman needs to be acknowledged as a mother for some reason.

I like to think of it as not excluding some women, although it is true that it's problematic to implicitly code all women as mothers.

I have to admit I find it more irking when people seem to think that every woman needs to be acknowledged as a mother for some reason.

I totally get this point, though it didn't even occur to me before you said it.

My mother never made a big deal of Mother's Day. I don't think we ever did more than give her a card. She would say, I'm a mother every day, so every day is Mother's Day for me!

I think it's great to set aside a day to recognize the people who are important in your life. I just think it should be more private, I guess. I get why businesses would want to use it to make a few bucks, but things like restaurants handing out roses to every woman is ridiculous, and potentially painful to too many people. I know women who basically hide on Mother's Day, and that just shouldn't be.

I get why businesses would want to use it to make a few bucks

This is actually my biggest gripe. Corporate holidays make me sad. Plus, legislating appreciation? Sigh.

I definitely make a point of not going to restaurants or stores, that's for sure. I never really celebrated Hallmark holidays even when younger, so it's not really the holiday that bothers me so much as the bizarre tendency on this particular one for random strangers to bring it up.

I don't remember which Mother's Day Jamaica celebrates. But since I'm never going to remember when the British one is, I extend wishes to my mother on this one. Not that she's home right now.

I'm glad no one has ever wished me a happy mother's day. It would irritate me. Do they hand out stuff to every man on father's day?