tommyrot, I just know my own experience of it - it's a spark of excitement, a little rush. It's partly physical attraction, but not entirely. It's partly finding out interesting things, things you have in common or that you think are cool. ::shrugs:: MHO.
You know, it's funny. We went to war never looking to come back, but it's the real world I couldn't survive.
Tracy ,'The Message'
Natter 65: Speed Limit Enforced by Aircraft
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, pandas, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
smonster - May 06, 2010 11:42:11 am PDT #27743 of 30001
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.
lisah - May 06, 2010 11:43:36 am PDT #27744 of 30001
Punishingly Intricate
What is this instant click thing she's talking about?
Like being attracted to someone and wanting to know more about them and spend more time with them? I don't think it needs to mean knowing exactly what kind of relationship you'll want with that person just then, necessarily.
Trudy Booth - May 06, 2010 11:45:16 am PDT #27745 of 30001
Greece's financial crisis threatens to take down all of Western civilization - a civilization they themselves founded. A rather tragic irony - which is something they also invented. - Jon Stewart
What is this instant click thing she's talking about?
Just speaking for myself, if I don't feel some spark of attraction right away I'm almost never going to.
Granted, often enough I feel it and the other person clearly doesn't so I stick him in the friend pile, there for him to remain until the sun goes out (much to my dismay).
I don't think the click feeling is a great or universal thing, its just a thing.
tommyrot - May 06, 2010 11:46:36 am PDT #27746 of 30001
Sir, it's not an offence to let your cat eat your bacon. Okay? And we don't arrest cats, I'm very sorry.
Like being attracted to someone and wanting to know more about them and spend more time with them?
Huh. Well I guess I've had that happen - and even had the other person feel the same way a few times... just not that often.
Cass - May 06, 2010 11:47:01 am PDT #27747 of 30001
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
He created a story at pbskids.com and emailed me a link.
*ded* of smiles
Kathy A - May 06, 2010 11:47:19 am PDT #27748 of 30001
We're very stretchy. - Connie Neil
What they said, tommyrot. And go you on the date--hope it works out!!
I took a half-day pto to take my cat into the vet for a badly-needed claw trim (she was sticking to everything last night). There was an oh-so-adorable 3 month old dachsund/chihuahua mix there named Roxy--such a little cutiepie!!!
Connie Neil - May 06, 2010 11:47:30 am PDT #27749 of 30001
brillig
The second time I met Hubby, after the initial accidental meeting, was semi-accidental--Thanks for arranging that, Amy!--and as soon as we saw each other we started talking only to each other, and we were still talking six hours later. Though not at Amy's house, because she did eventually want to go to bed.
lisah - May 06, 2010 11:49:21 am PDT #27750 of 30001
Punishingly Intricate
Well I guess I've had that happen - and even had the other person feel the same way a few times... just not that often.
There you go! I think the same thing happens with people you become friends with to. At least to me it does. (w/out the sexual attraction part)
Barb - May 06, 2010 11:51:08 am PDT #27751 of 30001
“Not dead yet!”
First time I met Lewis, we were still talking, fifteen hours later.
Twenty-one years later...
tommyrot - May 06, 2010 11:52:19 am PDT #27752 of 30001
Sir, it's not an offence to let your cat eat your bacon. Okay? And we don't arrest cats, I'm very sorry.
I think what bugs me is memories of previous experiences - when after one date the woman tells me she's not interested, and I was thinking, "But how could you know after only one date?"
I think I'm just wired a little differently than most people....