I at least had my own room; insisted on it. Not like the shenanigans happened there. Especially not when the shenanigan in question put me in a room right next to my parents. Um, NO?
Sooner or later, you're gonna want it. And the second — the second — that happens, you know I'll be there. I'll slip in, have myself a real good day.
Spike ,'Conversations with Dead People'
Goodbye and Good Riddance 2009: So long and thanks for all the fish.
Every year we watch the Charlie Brown special, do the Snoopy dance, wish everybody a Merry Christmukkah, and thank our Secret Santas in the good riddance thread. Which is this one, in case you were wondering. Oh, and 2009? Don't think we've forgotten about you
sarameg - Dec 04, 2009 5:59:49 pm PST #51 of 549
Strix - Dec 04, 2009 6:16:18 pm PST #52 of 549
A dress should be tight enough to show you're a woman but loose enough to flee from zombies. — Ginger
Wow, all of my shenanigans are firmly away from parents. I think they still wondered if I was a lesbian until I moved in with Dan. Despite conversations that included the words "Are you asking if I'm a lesbian? Because I would tell you if I were."
Then again, I've never traveled with my parents.
sarameg - Dec 04, 2009 6:43:58 pm PST #53 of 549
Takes a strong....something to travel with parents. I've done it twice as an adult and had one hormonal hell meltdown and one make-my-momma-cry episode (and I really, really do not get the latter.)
Good news is, best armed for future travel. Bad news is...well, that part sucked. I got over it.
My parents are totally confused by me. And that's fine. Brother does grandkids. I do...me.
Java cat - Dec 04, 2009 7:02:32 pm PST #54 of 549
Not javachik
There was an article in a very recent mag (not sure if it was Outside, Backpacking, Frommer's Budget Travel, or Nat'l Geo Adventure) about how many women end up having flings when they travel by themselves, and that often, married women end up leaving their husbands over it.
And - joining the sorority of fling-ers here!
Seska (the Watcher-in-Training) - Dec 04, 2009 10:39:08 pm PST #55 of 549
"We're all stories, in the end. Just make it a good one, eh?"
joining the sorority of fling-ers here!
Never done that. My life has been pretty dull. Although, I did lure The Girl to a weekend in Dublin not long after she'd refused to go out with me, during which weekend she changed her mind. :D
erikaj - Dec 05, 2009 4:30:54 pm PST #56 of 549
Always Anti-fascist!
F2f is really the closest I've ever come to getting some on the road or anything(Not that I've ever done anything at one that gets outside first base.) No, that's not true...there was one ancient LDR. But I travelled for him instead of meeting him while travelling. But I can't believe I ever liked him now anyway.(Which is not as cold as it sounds...I spent years believing he was too good for me, but you know what? Fuck that. He's a good man(a little square...would not understand the woman the Buffistas know, but he is a quality dude.) But I am a good woman, too. I need someone more comfortable with the weird stuff about me, possibly with dead parents. 2009 was just, like, fine. Could be a lot worse, could be a lot better. Picked up some new fandoms, started scriptwriting...anticipate moving into new markets in '10.
Burrell - Dec 05, 2009 7:43:09 pm PST #57 of 549
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!
Suela, I'm sorry. I didn't realize that you have been caring for your mother. If you ever want to talk or email or whatever to someone who's been there, feel free to get in touch with me.
Beverly - Dec 05, 2009 7:53:53 pm PST #58 of 549
Days shrink and grow cold, sunlight through leaves is my song. Winter is long.
Suela, Burrell's offer goes for me, too, if I can help in any way.
Consuela - Dec 05, 2009 9:39:25 pm PST #59 of 549
We are Buffistas. This isn't our first apocalypse. -- Pix
Aww, thanks guys. We've hired a home care aide, and my sister & I are tag-teaming on checking in with them, as they're living independently about 20 minutes away. But it's been hard to get them to accept the aide, for a variety of issues. They're really clinging to their independence. (Yes, we tried to get them into assisted living, but they wouldn't go for it.)
I try not to talk about it in public too much, because, well.
Shir - Dec 06, 2009 6:11:30 am PST #60 of 549
"And that's why God Almighty gave us fire insurance and the public defender".
I try not to talk about it in public too much, because, well.
Consuela, please tell me if I'm out of line, but... because of what?
Because you need to take care of your elderly mom? Can't see how this is something to hide. You didn't reject her, nor put her in a home away from everything and everyone to be visited twice a year.
You're taking care of you mother, for God's sake. You're not a serial killer (unless you are, and then I hope I never got you angry). You did the good, appropriate, hard and I-can't-even-imagine-how-much-challenging thing.
If anything... if you'll choose to tell people around you about it, I can only hope and understand if they'll be supportive about all of this. If not, they need a clue stick.
IMHO - it takes a village, both as a child and as an elder.
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You're good, you. Don't let our society's crappy sort-of new ideas about how the body and its aging is something to be embarrassed about to let you done. If anything, you're an example.