Hec, make a shirt of this and I'll buy it.
Mayor ,'Lies My Parents Told Me'
Spike's Bitches 45: That sure as hell wasn't in the brochure.
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
It's the Reflexive Doubt thread, I post on there as lillym and I made a couple posts (most ignored by the commenters) but there's the one person who doubts all authority because it's authority, thinks doctors can't help anyone, and said that antidepressants are "chemical lobotomies".
When I was going through the break-up of my first marriage, my therapist recommended ADs. I resisted the idea pretty much until I was back in Australia, and part of it was the fear that it'd dull my brain more generally. (Of course, it did nothing of the sort. I've re ently been rereading Bitches from that period, starting dating again and meeting Wallybee and all, and if anything I think it made me slightly manic.)
Heh. Probably not. It's not even that they aren't cool, it's just...I don't know, maybe I'm talking to other people at the time? I still become friends with them, but the inital "Why do you hate me?" and the sheer amount of "No really, I like you just fine!" I have to do, I find baffling.
I've always wondered why some women have called me intimidating or acted like I frightened them. I try not to be overtly threatening to anyone--unless I want to--but there are women who act like they expect me to eat their children and barbecue the dog.
Yep, this is me. Which I find all the more amusing, since I'm this little short woman who can be painfully shy in new situations with strangers.
I'm this little short woman who can be painfully shy in new situations with strangers.
You! Get out of my mirror! Though I think the painfully shy is actually closer to "more than a little hostile that I have to be social with A New Person I Don't Know." My comfort zone, let me show you it and never leave it.
Okay, I admit it. If I don't like you, I don't mind being intimidating. Scaring people I don't like is fun.
However, scaring people I like is not fun and I feel really badly about it when it's brought to my attention.
I have the opposite problem. People seem to always think I am approachable even when I am trying to give off the "get away from me or I will hit you with this crutch" vibe.
I don't think, apart from the martial arts, that I know how to be scary at the right times. I would really like to know how to scare certain categories of guys off, for instance, and can't do it for crap.
But I have no difficulty appearing abrasive or unpleasant without intending to. I get distant easily.
I have the opposite problem. People seem to always think I am approachable even when I am trying to give off the "get away from me or I will hit you with this crutch" vibe.
Ha! You are me, except replace crutch with "wee fist."
{{{Aims}}} Hang in there, sweetie.
Hmm. Professors and classmates and other people that I interact with but don't really know well often think I'm stand-offish or rude. Random people who don't know me at all seem to think I'm really approachable.
A few years ago, a friend asked me to babysit her toddler daughter for about half an hour. I said sure, and when she came back, she said thanks, and I said, "Sure, no problem," and went back to my office. She later told someone else that she wasn't going to ask me to babysit again, because she thought that my reaction to her thank you was so unenthusiastic that I must be mad at her for wasting my time with babysitting.