Aw, the quote on this page is, "See Vera? Dress yourself up; you get taken out somewhere fun". How appropriate for the wedding dress discussion.

Hi javachik! *waves*

Yay for geeking out together, Erin! Your dress idea sounds amazing -- I can't wait to see it come together.

Is it good? I'm intrigued but also resistant to the idea of buying a book about weddings.

It's OK. I'm enjoying reading it, but more in a spirit of solidarity ("other people have had offbeat weddings too!") than for any particularly helpful advice. A lot of the ideas are along the lines of "Hey, your dress doesn't have to be white!" or "You don't have to put on lots of makeup if you don't want to, but it's OK if you want to!" It's mostly a lot of stories about other people's weddings: hers, of course, and a bunch of other people she interviewed. In terms of practical suggestions and resources, I bet the website is just as good, if not better.

(I probably wouldn't have bought the book myself, but it was a gift from my mom, in the spirit of "I know you want to have a weird wedding, and I'm OK with that," which was sweet of her.)

I am totally with the rest of you in avoiding work today. *goes back to looking at red dresses*

edit: love the Vera quote!

See Vera? Dress yourself up; you get taken out somewhere fun". How appropriate for the wedding dress discussion.

Even funnier, as I saw "Vera" and thought "Vera Wang."

BTW, DAN and I were looking at wedding stuff yesterday and he kept muttering "WANG!" and cackling.

I am going to get that book if the library doesn't have it, because I am a planner, and I think it will help me to have a how-to guide that's not crazy.

EDIT: It's not how-to-y, Kate? Dammit, I need a checklist or something.

We have a wedding wiki (NERDS!). Internal only so far. It's been pretty useful to make sure we are covering all the bases.

I found this great site of Chicago ghost sign photos, and when I saw this one, I knew I had to post it here--it advertises corsets!

I am a planner, and I think it will help me to have a how-to guide that's not crazy.

You know, that's a good point; it does take you step-by-step through planning a wedding, which is really helpful. Asides about lesbian moms, underwater ceremonies, and all-night raves: bonus!

edit: Erin, I definitely think it could be useful as a how-to guide.

We have a wedding wiki (NERDS!).

You mean AWESOME nerds! I think we will mostly be using Google Docs for our planning, because I live for spreadsheets.

My friend* is acting as our wedding planner. She is easily the most organized person in the world (if not the most reliable!) - we have spreadsheets coming out of our ears.

Of course, it would help if we could sort out the issue over the ever-changing date. attempting to grit teeth and bear with the universe patiently. sodding universe.

*amorphia, former Bronzer. It doesn't get any better than a wedding between two people who met online, organized by a fandom friend.

Kate! Hullo, darling o' mine.

I want to wear a red-and-gold dress.

And I do recall that you look FABOO in that color combo. That was the DC f2f, yes?

So exciting! We other Bitches get the vicarious fun of wedding plan and less of the stress! Plus, lessons learned for those of us who may yet someday tie the knot.

I fervently hope that the duct tape will not be necessary. If it is, I request black and red. Those are my colors, you know. If you want me to suffer additionally, go for pastels.

The long-distance flirtation with my divorced hs friend in Chicago (DHSFC? - umm, no)is proceeding apace. By which I mean we're playing phone tag and texting back and forth. Even if it goes absolutely nowhere, it helps me keep in mind the kind of person I want to be dating - even if the concept I have of him is somewhat idealized.

Oooh, JZ, that corset is soooo pretty!! I am leaning more and more towards the buy fabric/custom corset. Many of the brocades I am seeing are simply beautiful...it's going to be hard to decide.

I have a very clear idea of the corset, but I am much more amorphous on the skirt. I do NOT think it needs to be custom-made, as I want it to be simple flowing kneecap length A-line. Airy and cool for September. Color and fabric up in the air -- I saw a simply GORGEOUS formal dress at Hall's yesterday, which is KC's fancy-dancy department store -- we were looking at Zenga suits, as DAN is very slim and has very decided sartorial tastes; he told me no black because it washed him out, Euro cut, and "They're TROUSERS, not pants, darling, and I am going to have to have them extensively tailored" OMG SO FUCKING CUTE.

Anyhoo, tangent. The fabric was a light silk, and iridescent emerald and violet. The dress itself was ugly, but the fabric was hawt.