I battle evil. But I don't really win. The bad keeps coming back and getting stronger. Like that kid in the story, the boy that stuck his finger in the duck.

Buffy ,'Showtime'


Spike's Bitches 45: That sure as hell wasn't in the brochure.  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


amyth - Aug 24, 2010 1:23:42 pm PDT #29879 of 30000
And none of us deserving the cruelty or the grace -- Leonard Cohen

Go, omnis!

Shir, I look forward to your further thoughts.

DCJ, OMG, I'm so sorry. It's stories like that that make me not that sad that I can't drive anymore. UGH.


Hil R. - Aug 24, 2010 1:36:58 pm PDT #29880 of 30000
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l

I have made it through two days of teaching. When is the semester over? (I do like teaching. It's just exhausting.)


Vortex - Aug 24, 2010 1:42:45 pm PDT #29881 of 30000
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman

Okay, here's the sitch - guy keeps suggesting that we go out, and sometimes even suggests a specific date, but keeps flaking. He's asked what my schedule is like for next week. Is this response too passive aggressive?

I'm busy this upcoming weekend, but next weekend is open for now. Of course, based on past experience, I won't worry about being double booked if something else comes up.

or should I just be frank and say

I'm busy this upcoming weekend, but next weekend is open for now. For the record, I really hate it when people don't follow through, so if you're going to suggest something, please actually do it.


Cass - Aug 24, 2010 1:47:28 pm PDT #29882 of 30000
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.

(I don't always take my own advice but) frank is much better than passive-aggressive.


-t - Aug 24, 2010 1:48:40 pm PDT #29883 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

I prefer Door #2. As someone who is prone to flakiness, I'd rather know for sure that it's to be avoided.


javachik - Aug 24, 2010 1:48:53 pm PDT #29884 of 30000
Our wings are not tired.

If you like the guy and actually want to go out with him, I'd be nicer but firm. Something along the lines of "I'm open Wednesday but your past cancellations were disappointing. Can we make a firm plan?"


amyth - Aug 24, 2010 1:49:26 pm PDT #29885 of 30000
And none of us deserving the cruelty or the grace -- Leonard Cohen

I like the second one.

ETA: Or what java said!!!!


Scrappy - Aug 24, 2010 1:53:16 pm PDT #29886 of 30000
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.

Yeah, if you like the guy, what Java said, If you just want to bitchslap him, either of yours will do (well, one is a bitchslap and the other more of a rap on the knuckles).


beekaytee - Aug 24, 2010 2:07:49 pm PDT #29887 of 30000
Compassionately intolerant

I agree with Java. Frank and specific.

Go you omnis! Thanks for fighting the good pint. I'm still working on my blood drive plan, and your success is another reminder to stay on top of it. And good on ya for sharing the wealth.

Daniel, what a drag! Sorry to hear about the dreadful car-ma. I have totally had my share of money-pit cars and it is, indeed, the pits.

Hey, did you receive a package from me recently? It went first class mail, so if not, let me know and I'll jump on the post office.


beekaytee - Aug 24, 2010 2:12:38 pm PDT #29888 of 30000
Compassionately intolerant

In further me news, thanks again to everyone for their kind words last night and this morning.

I did, in fact, go get that kettlecorn ::mumbleandsomeothestuffiprobablyshouldn'thavemumble:: and parked myself in front of the season finale of Top Shot and a Glades episode. Definitely did the trick.

Have you ever had a heavy emotional experience and then wake up the next day with a faux hangover? I did this morning. Not painful, just sort of toxic.

I chalk it up to two interestingly related dreams that seemed to be based on the where my head went yesterday. One in which I went back to the place where my father and I lived alone. In the dream, much time had passed, the place was lovely and the people were really kind.

In the other dream, a very practical, but caring man (not one I recognized in the dream) gave me a pep talk about not letting myself dwell in sadness.

Good all around.