Thanks, erikaj. This has been one of the hardest years of my life. I lost my home, a garden that was truly amazing, and then my grandmother went to the hospital just as the house was starting to sell and died not long after I moved. My mom hasn't been home in months, my father has now joined her down there. And I'm sure it's incredibly hard on my mom. I really feel for her. It's a cruel, cruel summer.
I've only been to Phoenix once and it was to visit a friend. I didn't do a single tourist-y thing. I just visited her at the dayspa she worked at. I hear there's a very cool ethnomusic museum that opened there recently, though.
Good luck making a tough decision, Gloomcookie.
That's awful, Aims. What a catch-22 to be in.
That sounds tremendously frustrating, Aims.
Do you know what would happen if you all decided to wait your mom out?
{{{Spidra}}} I'm sorry this has been such a difficult year for you. I hope things get better soon.
Do you know what would happen if you all decided to wait your mom out?
In all honesty she would probably come home, ignore us for a week being mad at us for not understanding her pain, and then call as if nothing ever had happened.
callauna sanding the ma~~`
and to amyth's~~~~~
((aims)) I'd say don't go , because the after sounds easier to deal with and it sounds like yo u sister has a head start on dealing with the cabin situation
of course, it really should be your dad. You guys rescuing her isn't going to change things. But who can tell parents how to behave?
{{{Aims}}} I'm sorry you have to dealw ith this frustrating situation every year.
It should totally be our dad. But she's got so much anger displaced onto to him right now that I worry she'll totally shut down if he goes up there.
Or maybe they'd fight and have the angry sex and fix everything. Who the hell knows. Some days, I really, really, really miss that 2500 mile buffer.
I don't think you or your sister should have to. Unfair to either of you.
So, parents, how did you decide whether or not to have a 2nd child?
My younger sibling is a non-neurotypical nutcase, and we got it right with the first one, so why risk a second?
I found it exceedingly rough to be the older sibling of a kid with issues (I wasn't issue-free, but his were more severe, and parents triage). I wouldn't risk putting my kid through that.
In all honesty she would probably come home, ignore us for a week being mad at us for not understanding her pain, and then call as if nothing ever had happened.
In that case, I say ignore her. Let her figure it out on her own this year. You and your sister both have your own stuff on your plate right now.
