Thanks for the birthday wishes. It was a quiet birthday.

Thank you, everyone. I've done what I need to at the office today, so I'm going to go home and hang out in the basement with the kitty.

Yesterday I met up with an old friend from when I was an undergraduate. It's been at least eight years since I last saw her. Neither of us has changed all that much - except I came out and met The Girl within the last eight years. She's still a very evangelical Christian, whereas I've become far more liberal, and not only because of coming out. She was clearly struggling with it, but the fact that neither of us felt any need to 'persuade' the other was a good thing. She at one point said how she has her own "temptations". And I had to say that actually, I'm in a committed, permanent and soon-to-be-official-under-law relationship with another person, and I didn't think that exactly fell under the category of 'temptation'. While I'm mostly OK that some people think I'm a sinner, as long as they know they are too, I also find it frustrating that their relationships are holy while mine is evil. Ultimately, that's where I have trouble with the 'love the sinner' stuff. I'm a terrible sinner. But The Girl is one thing I got right.

Seska posted this a couple days ago, but I just wanted to repeat it because it's a beautiful way of saying something very important.

Debet, I'm so sorry. I hope the time you have left with Maggie is good for both of you.

Steph, you have all my sympathy for what you are going through. Mark said something to me the other day, when I was on another crying jag and apologizing for burdening him with my own grief on top of his, to the effect of: "I don't need you to be strong. I just need you to be here." And I'm sure Tim feels similarly. What he really needs is for you to be there with him. That's it; that's what counts.

I'm so sorry, Debet.

Steph, all the strength in the world to you today, and to all who loved her.

Aw, Kate.

{{Kate}}

(just 'cause even though some time has passed, it doesn't mean the pain has lessened)

Thanks, Nora. I will always take more punctuation!

I've mostly been OK, but have had a few rough times recently. Several people, including Mark, have asked whether I might want to see a therapist myself; at first I said I thought I'd be fine without it, but have recently been thinking, what could it hurt?? So I guess that's my project for the week, to look into what my options for therapy might be. Yay?

I'm going to go home and hang out in the basement with the kitty.

Good choice. Talk to her. Say the things you want to say to her. It'll help in the future.

I am so sorry to hear of another sick beloved pet in here.

And Teppy, listen to everyone; they're wise.

Happy birthday, Aims!

Happy belated birthday, Fred Pete!

{{{Debet}}}

{{{Kate}}}

Steph, I also concur with the wise Buffistas: it's totally okay to cry at the funeral. Hell, I cried delivering the eulogy at FiL's funeral. People understand the grieving. Sending peaceful vibes your way.

Happy belated Fred. I've been hit and miss with the birthday wishes. I'm sorry I missed on yours.