I have memorabilia from DH#1 and DH#2. Both my prior wedding dresses, pictures and stuff. It isn't so much that I keep reminders of the men, but it was a part of my life.
I just didn't expect a box full of photo albums. I knew he had his wedding album, but not 6 albums.
I can see where it would be hard for me to see pictures of an ex. Actually it was when it happened. But the past happened, so...
Um. What I'm having a hard time with, mostly, is the naked pictures of his ex-wife. I understand the past happened and that they got naked together. I understand that people keep pictures of their past. But, seriously? I'm not an unreasonable person, but I don't think seeing naked pictures of one's current boyfriend's ex-wife is the same thing as seeing pictures of them playing with the dogs.
I don't want to be a shrew and demand he get rid of all traces of his past, but I don't think wanting him to not have naked pictures of his ex-wife is unreasonable.
Oh, no. The nakeds need to go.
Okay. I didn't think that was unreasonable. Because, naughty pictures of my exes? Deleted. Not that I don't think of them fondly, because I do. Well, some of them. But I figure the explicit pictures go away when the relationship does.
Yeah, naked is a different story.
I'm just tired and sad and have a please-drill-a-hole-in-my-skull migraine and haven't eaten since 2:00 and I know that all of that is making me bug-eyed with overreaction. I get that.
um, Tep, you might want to point out that the ex would probably be happier knowing that the nekkid pics are no longer floating around somewhere.
Yeah, I guess I wasn't totally clear in my original post. I said "naughty pictures," because I was trying to, y'know, make it a blurry watercolor instead of saying oh my god, my boyfriend has naked pictures of his ex-wife. (A lot.) (And wow, I could NEVER do that, and she's like half my size, and I just don't want him to start comparing how she was all slender and uninhibited and I'm all fat and refuse to immortalize my fat naked self in photos.)
(And eating dinner would help my state of mind, I get that. And not having this fucking headache.)
Yeah, I guess I wasn't totally clear in my original post.
I was just unclear because I thought you wanted all of the pictures gone. Not just the naughty ones.
Yeah, you show your awesome living in awesome sin girlfriend nakeds of the ex and they need to go away. End of question for me.
Also, eat. Drink some water and eat something. You will feel better.
I maybe shouldn't have shared all that. But I'm just a raw nerve right now, and I just flipped out like a mammal. But internally.
