You didn't even get a CARD, Teppy?
Oh, god no. I think they're too Christian to think that his mother's death "counts" as a grief-y thing for me, since after all we aren't married. One woman even said it must be hard for me to be "on the outside" during all this. So why would I be upset about Tim's mom dying? I don't have the decency to get married, so I must not have the decency to care about his mom.
[Note: I am making inferences in the last 2 sentences. However, one co-worker did actually make the "on the outside" comment, with a straight face.]
My mom said, "I don't care that you aren't married; she was your mother-in-law." Mom's actually the first one to say that, and it made me feel better, acknowledging the enormity of this loss.
must be hard for me to be "on the outside" during all this.
"Oh no, I was in the living room. Why would I be outside?"
Jebus. What a bunch of fucking tools. I am so sorry for your loss, Steph.
I'm so sorry that you have to deal with stupidity on top of grief.
My mom said, "I don't care that you aren't married; she was your mother-in-law." Mom's actually the first one to say that, and it made me feel better, acknowledging the enormity of this loss.
Your mom is right. And you can call her your "MIL" for mother-in-love.
I'm so sorry that you have to deal with stupidity on top of grief.
nods emphatically
I think I kinda hate your co-workers.
Mom's actually the first one to say that, and it made me feel better, acknowledging the enormity of this loss.
oh, I'm so sorry that I didn't actually say that. Honestly, that's the way I've been thinking of what you're going through. I know that I'm not the only one who knows how huge that this has been for you.
must be hard for me to be "on the outside" during all this.
"Oh no, I was in the living room. Why would I be outside?"
I didn't say anything, just made Downcast Face. Because *I* know that Tim's mom treated me like family, even though she really would have preferred we were married. She kept her moral belief separate from how she treated me, always, and she treated me very well.
And you can call her your "MIL" for mother-in-love.
Awwwww. Now I'm all teary at work. That's perfect.
I think they're too Christian
I think they're too "Christian"
There. Fixed that for ya.
And if you and Tim don't count as each other's family, I don't know many couples that would pass the test.
