sj, if she wants you to do that work, she needs to pay you. Seriously. It has to be a business transaction. For both of you.
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Cass - Aug 03, 2010 2:38:33 pm PDT #27377 of 30000
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
smonster - Aug 03, 2010 2:39:28 pm PDT #27378 of 30000
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sj, hell yes you should get paid! That's regular work, and it is work. I can see how the conversation could get awkward, but you should mos def get paid.
Spidra Webster - Aug 03, 2010 2:41:26 pm PDT #27379 of 30000
I wish I could just go somewhere to get flensed but none of the whaling ships near me take Medicare.
I'm not sure if there's a *nice* way to say it but I think saying "I can't really see myself getting up at 5:30 every Friday for free" covers it.
sj - Aug 03, 2010 2:45:44 pm PDT #27380 of 30000
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
She didn't pay me for helping her out this summer originally, but then she did give me an $80 thank you gift along with a pretty pottery bowl. Her other option is to pay for a full day of daycare, so even if she gives me a tiny amount, it's still saving her a ton of money.
ETA: I have no idea how much to ask for, even if I do figure out how to bring up the subject. 5 hours a day, one day a week. Any suggestions?
Vortex - Aug 03, 2010 2:46:50 pm PDT #27381 of 30000
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman
I think that sounds a little passive aggressive. Maybe something like
"Now that I'm committing to a regular schedule, I'd like to be compensated for my time. I think that ___ would be fair."
Cass - Aug 03, 2010 2:47:37 pm PDT #27382 of 30000
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
She's asking you to do regular work. She needs to give you regular pay. End of story.
What that pay is, negotiable. But it needs to be x per day or x per hour. No question.
Zenkitty - Aug 03, 2010 2:48:03 pm PDT #27383 of 30000
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
sj, she should not expect you to do that for free. That's taking advantage of your friendship. Doing it one day, if she's in a bind, as a favor, sure. But when it becomes an expected, regularly scheduled thing? That's work, and you should get paid.
Cass - Aug 03, 2010 2:49:14 pm PDT #27384 of 30000
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
And what Vortex said. Say it nicely. But it has to be said.
brenda m - Aug 03, 2010 2:51:30 pm PDT #27385 of 30000
If you're going through hell/keep on going/don't slow down/keep your fear from showing/you might be gone/'fore the devil even knows you're there
My instinct would be to treat it as assumed. "I thought about it, and with getting married and all it would be good to have a little extra coming in so yes, I'd be happy to do it. The only weeks when I'll have an issue are..."
Maybe that's passive agressive too, but.
Spidra Webster - Aug 03, 2010 3:11:51 pm PDT #27386 of 30000
I wish I could just go somewhere to get flensed but none of the whaling ships near me take Medicare.
Go with what Vortex is saying. It's always been difficult for me to phrase things right so I'm sure Vortex has got a better handle on it.