sj, she should not expect you to do that for free. That's taking advantage of your friendship. Doing it one day, if she's in a bind, as a favor, sure. But when it becomes an expected, regularly scheduled thing? That's work, and you should get paid.
I just think it's rather odd that a nation that prides itself on its virility should feel compelled to strap on forty pounds of protective gear just in order to play rugby.
Giles ,'Beneath You'
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Zenkitty - Aug 03, 2010 2:48:03 pm PDT #27383 of 30000
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
Cass - Aug 03, 2010 2:49:14 pm PDT #27384 of 30000
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
And what Vortex said. Say it nicely. But it has to be said.
brenda m - Aug 03, 2010 2:51:30 pm PDT #27385 of 30000
If you're going through hell/keep on going/don't slow down/keep your fear from showing/you might be gone/'fore the devil even knows you're there
My instinct would be to treat it as assumed. "I thought about it, and with getting married and all it would be good to have a little extra coming in so yes, I'd be happy to do it. The only weeks when I'll have an issue are..."
Maybe that's passive agressive too, but.
Spidra Webster - Aug 03, 2010 3:11:51 pm PDT #27386 of 30000
I wish I could just go somewhere to get flensed but none of the whaling ships near me take Medicare.
Go with what Vortex is saying. It's always been difficult for me to phrase things right so I'm sure Vortex has got a better handle on it.
WindSparrow - Aug 03, 2010 3:14:51 pm PDT #27387 of 30000
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
I like Vortex's direct approach.
Barb - Aug 03, 2010 3:17:28 pm PDT #27388 of 30000
“Not dead yet!”
smonster, you've got insent (or should) from me, on your question. Lemme know if you got it since I've been having fits with my email program.
Barb - Aug 03, 2010 3:17:28 pm PDT #27389 of 30000
“Not dead yet!”
meara - Aug 03, 2010 3:41:47 pm PDT #27390 of 30000
I'd go for the slightly less aggressive approach--either the Brenda assumption-of-payment or the opposite, assuming it's not-- "Oh, I really don't think I could commit to something like that unless it was a paid position, you know I adore him and am happy to help on occasion, but..."
smonster - Aug 03, 2010 3:44:52 pm PDT #27391 of 30000
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.
Barb, not yet. Thank you in advance! And Gud, I got yours and backflung.
javachik - Aug 03, 2010 3:47:41 pm PDT #27392 of 30000
Our wings are not tired.
meara, that's a good approach. I like your wording.