Faith ,'Get It Done'
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Dear husband: after 8+ years of your telling me over and over again how much of a fuck up you are (and me saying that isn't true) I am finally starting to see your point of view.
Aw honey...
Do we have Tipsy Nora again? (I'm not dismissing the sentiment -- just trying to assess your state of mind.)
Hang in there. Even when you really really want it a move is hard. We gotcher back.
Awww Nora, I have been in your headspace before. Being married is hard work, and sometimes you want to throw your hands in the air and ... run away for a life of crime. Those times do pass, I promise. If you need to vent, we're here for you.
Who's tipsy on a Sunday night and has two thumbs?
...this girl!
I may join you. Wooooo!
It's important to me to say our vows in front of our friends and family (and have a fucking rocking party after). But I understand that's not everyone's ideal. It's nice we have choices!
Sorry you're having a rough time, Nora. A big move like you guys made, no matter how great in how many ways, has got to be stressful.
Not tipsy, just aggravated. But it's better now (as it always tends to be.)
Just needed to vent- thanks for listening and validating! I think I will go back and delete my original comment, just in case.
It's hard, things are more intense because we're more isolated and depend on each other more for the day to day emotional cues.
It'll be OK. Thanks.
Glad to hear it, Nora. I know exactly what you mean about isolation intensifying the relationship. Dave & I are like that often, and we get caught in a feedback loop because there's no one else to disrupt our cycles, so we just go round and round with each other. We're learning how to utilize our mutual resources to break ourselves out of that. But we do rely on each other a lot, and in the end, that's not a bad thing, just something we had to learn to manage differently. And, you know, we made friends and stuff here, and that helps.
It's hard, things are more intense because we're more isolated and depend on each other more for the day to day emotional cues.
You're a wise chick, Nora.
It's possible that following up The Kids Are All Right with FNL and Being Human and three glasses of wine was not smart. I think I exceeded my RDA for emotionally fraught media. Hanging out with happy lesbo couples and then commiserating with my sis didn't really help matters.
Let's hope Frankie snuggles have magical healing powers. Time for bed.
When we moved out here - that is when I found the Boffistas on Salon. That is what saved me. I just needed a different conversation.