Awww Nora, I have been in your headspace before. Being married is hard work, and sometimes you want to throw your hands in the air and ... run away for a life of crime. Those times do pass, I promise. If you need to vent, we're here for you.
A ghost? What's the deal? Is every frat on this campus haunted? And if so, why do people keep coming to these parties, cause it's not the snacks.
Xander ,'Dirty Girls'
Spike's Bitches 45: That sure as hell wasn't in the brochure.
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Atropa - Aug 01, 2010 3:45:26 pm PDT #27192 of 30000
The artist formerly associated with cupcakes.
smonster - Aug 01, 2010 4:36:40 pm PDT #27193 of 30000
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.
Who's tipsy on a Sunday night and has two thumbs?
...this girl!
Spidra Webster - Aug 01, 2010 4:45:06 pm PDT #27194 of 30000
I wish I could just go somewhere to get flensed but none of the whaling ships near me take Medicare.
I may join you. Wooooo!
lisah - Aug 01, 2010 4:45:54 pm PDT #27195 of 30000
Punishingly Intricate
It's important to me to say our vows in front of our friends and family (and have a fucking rocking party after). But I understand that's not everyone's ideal. It's nice we have choices!
Sorry you're having a rough time, Nora. A big move like you guys made, no matter how great in how many ways, has got to be stressful.
Nora Deirdre - Aug 01, 2010 4:47:22 pm PDT #27196 of 30000
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)
Not tipsy, just aggravated. But it's better now (as it always tends to be.)
Just needed to vent- thanks for listening and validating! I think I will go back and delete my original comment, just in case.
It's hard, things are more intense because we're more isolated and depend on each other more for the day to day emotional cues.
It'll be OK. Thanks.
Liese S. - Aug 01, 2010 5:05:24 pm PDT #27197 of 30000
"Faded like the lilac, he thought."
Glad to hear it, Nora. I know exactly what you mean about isolation intensifying the relationship. Dave & I are like that often, and we get caught in a feedback loop because there's no one else to disrupt our cycles, so we just go round and round with each other. We're learning how to utilize our mutual resources to break ourselves out of that. But we do rely on each other a lot, and in the end, that's not a bad thing, just something we had to learn to manage differently. And, you know, we made friends and stuff here, and that helps.
Trudy Booth - Aug 01, 2010 5:31:17 pm PDT #27198 of 30000
Greece's financial crisis threatens to take down all of Western civilization - a civilization they themselves founded. A rather tragic irony - which is something they also invented. - Jon Stewart
It's hard, things are more intense because we're more isolated and depend on each other more for the day to day emotional cues.
You're a wise chick, Nora.
smonster - Aug 01, 2010 6:21:12 pm PDT #27199 of 30000
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.
It's possible that following up The Kids Are All Right with FNL and Being Human and three glasses of wine was not smart. I think I exceeded my RDA for emotionally fraught media. Hanging out with happy lesbo couples and then commiserating with my sis didn't really help matters.
Let's hope Frankie snuggles have magical healing powers. Time for bed.
beth b - Aug 01, 2010 6:26:26 pm PDT #27200 of 30000
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!
When we moved out here - that is when I found the Boffistas on Salon. That is what saved me. I just needed a different conversation.
Nora Deirdre - Aug 01, 2010 6:31:00 pm PDT #27201 of 30000
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)
I am trying, and I am making friends and making inroads in the community here, it just takes time.
Oh, did I mention we are both off our anti-d's? I gotta get to the doctor, and get back on the horse, but Tom does not want to go back on meds at all ever again.
Which is his choice, but I'm pretty unhappy about it.