See, Vera? Dress yourself up; you get taken out somewhere fun.

Jayne ,'Our Mrs. Reynolds'


Spike's Bitches 45: That sure as hell wasn't in the brochure.  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


Steph L. - Jun 18, 2010 12:18:56 pm PDT #23138 of 30000
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine

I've been out all day, spending copious amounts of money for my car's 120,000-mile tune-up. Jesus Christ, it's expensive! But we leave for vacation in 2 weeks, and it's a 12-hour drive, and I feel safer having gotten the tune-up now rather than after we get back.

So, to briefly meara:

She just wants me to keep them happy.

P-C, since your sister lives at home, I'm not surprised how that's colored her opinion. Just keep remembering that.

Also, it's not your job to keep your parents happy. (It's not ANYBODY'S job to keep them happy; if they can't keep themselves happy, no one else will ever be able to.) It's your job to keep YOURSELF happy. And you ARE. You have a good life, with awesome friends and all kinds of amazing activities and stuff (acting, for example), and a job you love that you're great at.

You take care of YOU. That's what you have to do.

P-C, if you can, I advise you to take the high road as much as possible. Reframe the discussion so it's not about "sides" or being a bad son. I would tell them you love them unconditionally. "I love you, I respect you, but I just can't do this ONE thing in the way you want. That's all." Don't do a flounce or be drawn into their melodramatic view of the world. It'll be hard, but it;s part of being an adult. They see things as all or nothing. You don't have to.

I really agree with this. Or, I would amend it to say, you don't HAVE to commmunicate with them. At all. Ever. BUT if you do, stick with the wisdom of Scrappy. You can make the choice to not get drawn into their melodrama. It's hard, but you can do it.

MPreg squicks me like nothing else.

It still makes me laugh that Farscape managed to do it canonically.

Oh, Farscape. I love that your canon is what other fandoms would label crack!fic.

And now I want to watch some Farscape.


NoiseDesign - Jun 18, 2010 12:23:47 pm PDT #23139 of 30000
Our wings are not tired

P-C also seriously look into some time with a therapist. This is a huge amount of stress you are being placed under and some talk therapy can really help keep it in perspective and help you develpop some coping techniques.


Atropa - Jun 18, 2010 12:26:23 pm PDT #23140 of 30000
The artist formerly associated with cupcakes.

Zenkitty! The box arrived today, thank you very much!


Amy - Jun 18, 2010 1:36:02 pm PDT #23141 of 30000
Because books.

Why? Why make them pregnant?

Mpreg fascinated me for about a month after I discovered what it was, in a "seriously? seriously?!" kind of way.

Then I realized I preferred reading about people who sprouted wings.


P.M. Marc - Jun 18, 2010 1:37:43 pm PDT #23142 of 30000
So come, my friends, be not afraid/We are so lightly here/It is in love that we are made; In love we disappear

Then I realized I preferred reading about people who sprouted wings.

AHAHAHAHAHHAHAHA! THAT IS AWESOME!


§ ita § - Jun 18, 2010 1:45:16 pm PDT #23143 of 30000
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.

You better type that in smallfont, woman!


Amy - Jun 18, 2010 1:49:02 pm PDT #23144 of 30000
Because books.

I've learned to live with the shame.

::slinks away, clutching wing!fic to breast::


smonster - Jun 18, 2010 1:50:18 pm PDT #23145 of 30000
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.

ND is also wise. I will not speak for others, but any wisdom I have to offer is largely the result of talk therapy. Six years and counting, baby! Do not underestimate the value of professional assistance in this matter.

Ah, wingfic. Have you read the Turn of the Wheel cycle? It's SPN...


SailAweigh - Jun 18, 2010 1:50:28 pm PDT #23146 of 30000
Nana korobi, ya oki. (Fall down seven times, stand up eight.) ~Yuzuru Hanyu/Japanese proverb

Hey, I've written wing!fic and I'd do it again!


Amy - Jun 18, 2010 1:53:48 pm PDT #23147 of 30000
Because books.

Not sure if I've read that one, smonster, but what I have read is all SPN, actually.

Hey, I came to fic late! I didn't know it wasn't cool!