I've been going to Savannah every year since I was a kid, since that's where my parents are from and my mom's whole side of the family still lives there. The downtown has evolved amazingly since SCAD moved in, though for better or worse is up for debate. One of my cousins (I think he's my dad's mom's cousin) owns a fancy and yummy restaurant there. [link]

P-C, Toddson is wise. Hers was pretty much my experience as well. That well WILL not fill, Dude.

If she ever gets to a point where she's actually listening to you, you might tell her you're desperately trying to treat your parents like adults, by telling them the truth, not pretending to agree with them and then deceiving them. Being honest is the adult thing to do. But if they're incapable of accepting honesty, then is it her advice to treat them like children and lie to them to spare their feelings?

That isn't respect, it isn't love. Be strong, choose honesty, to them, and to yourself.

Again, Beverly speaks my heart.

Andi! Poor sweetie. I hope the occupational pain is short-lived. Me and my dog bite totally commiserate.

P-C, are you sure your mother didn't actually *dictate* that e-mail? If it weren't for the lack of caps, I'd suspect that your mother just wrote it.

No, I'm sure it's her. It's in line with her texts to me. She just wants me to keep them happy.

P-C, I have a lot of respect for how you are choosing to deal with this horrible situation. You have chosen to be a good, honest man instead of a manipulative boy.

I would not respond to your sister's letter. except for maybe "Sorry you feel that way". Anything else is just going to add fuel to the fire or be mean. Pointless.

Yay Hil. You will find a good place.

extra strength sj.

I would not respond to your sister's letter.

I agree with Beth and what everyone else has said about the pressures you sister is under that would precipitate this particular missive. There is no quenching that fire, so I'd advocate for silence being your friend.

Yeah, I'm not going to respond. I don't want to damage that relationship any further. I already feel betrayed and like I can't talk to her about this stuff anymore.

When I read your sister's letter, my first thought was "Stockholm syndrome," but only in the broadest sense.

Actually, that's not true, my first thought was for the syndrome, but I couldn't remember the city, and I attached Helsinki Syndrome.

After much more sleep and some Googling, I think I may have watched Die Hard too many times.

I don't want to damage that relationship any further.

While I can totally see why you said this, I can't stress enough how much you are not damaging your relationships by being an adult. If being yourself is 'damaging' that's some powerful, and sad, information about the choices others are making.

The heartbreaking thing about your sister's form of Stockholm Syndrome, is that she can fool herself into thinking that she is just oozing with filial piety, and think she's got the moral high ground. But the best thing you can do for her, is to continue defending your (entirely reasonable) boundaries, and maintain your personal integrity.